Results for: be the change
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You Need Help: Your Friend Takes Everything Super Personally
What I hear from the anecdotes you shared is someone who is deeply lonely and feels deeply unseen, but you can’t be your friend’s therapist, even if you want what’s best for her.
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You Need Help: Should I Go No Contact With My Ex?
Exes don’t HAVE to be friends but also don’t HAVE to be enemies.
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You Need Help: I’m A Teen And I’m In Love With My Best Friend
The line between friendship and romantic relationships is very thin, especially for queer people.
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You Need Help: I Don’t Know How To Be a Casual Friend
It sounds like you want to be neutral with your former friend. That will take some work and some boundary-setting on your part, but it’s doable.
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You Need Help: How Do I Know if I’m Really Attracted to My Partner?
Humans can sometimes be unreliable narrators of our own lives.
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You Need Help: How Do I Flirt When I’m Worried About Coming On Too Strong
I’m black and masculine so I’m worried that if I tried to make a move it would come off too strong, which I know I really shouldn’t but we live in a world.
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You Need Help: My Crush Is Dating Someone Else and I Feel Very Jealous
You don’t always get the girl, and that’s okay.
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You Need Help: I’m In Love With My Straight Best Friend
There will come a time when you see someone at the grocery store or in class and think “oh wow, they’re cute!” And then you’ll know: the hard work has paid off.
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You Need Help: How Can I Deal With My Own Sexual Shame?
I want you to know that your shame is not uncommon and you’re not alone in feeling it. While it does take a long time to undo, you’re on the right track by acknowledging it verbally.
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You Need Help: I Feel Like I’m My Girlfriend’s Second Choice
I want you to start 2023 feeling like your own number-one pick. That way, when the right person comes along, you’ll be ready and confident to be her number-one pick, too.
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You Need Help: I’m a 16 Year-old Lesbian Asking ‘What Is Love?’
“How do I get myself to understand what love can really be, after the initial sparks fade?”
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You Need Help: My Girlfriend Has No Queer Friends, Is That a Problem?
This is very clearly your problem, not your girlfriend’s problem, and resolving it will be your work, not hers.
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You Need Help: My Ex Got Mad That I Didn’t Want To Have Sex, Now I Can’t Trust Anyone
I have to start by getting this out: “Fuck your ex. FUCK THEM.” You are not to blame.
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You Need Help: I’ve Matched With the Same Person Three Times on Tinder
We started chatting, and it was going well until she abruptly stopped replying.
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You Need Help: Do I Owe a Girl From My Past an Apology in the Present?
Treat people better than you did in your early twenties, and eventually you’ll realize that you have nothing to feel guilty about anymore.
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You Need Help: Should My Relationship Really Be This Hard?
Moving through your relationship as carefully as you currently are is going to be unsustainable in the long-term. Your partner is enacting a sustained pattern of behavior that needs to stop.
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How Do I Approach Sex With My Partner of Six Years While We’re Both Navigating Trauma?
The lack of sex that resulted from our wildly differing needs has had a lasting impact.
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You Need Help: You’re New to the Queer Dating Scene, Do You Need to Change Yourself?
One person is worried being femme and bi will stop her from dating. Another is worried being fat and having no experience will. Good news! None of that will stop you!
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You Need Help: My Girlfriend is So Annoying, Should I Break Up With Her?
Your feelings about her are a great big neon sign spelling out the word B R E A K U P.
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You Need Help: I Can’t Get My Exes Out of My Head
We don’t need to be friends with our exes. One more time for emphasis. We don’t need to be friends with our exes.