Results for: you need help
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You Need Help: How Do I Navigate Femme Invisibility Without Changing Who I Am?
“You mention that you don’t want to shout that you are a lesbian from the rooftops, and of course, there are places that would be unsafe to do that — but you might consider the possibility that there are more opportunities to do so than you think.”
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You Need Help: I Just Came Out, and I Feel Weird
Coming out isn’t a magic trick that makes us suddenly understand ourselves completely.
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You Need Help: I Never Imagined I’d Live Past 20. Now What?
Babe, I promise you’re right on time. In 2020 I can’t be sure of hardly anything, but I am sure that you are good. You belong right where you are, and you get to do the messy work of finding out what’s next.
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You Need Help: Gender Feels in Quarantine
Your rawness and tenderness is a primal signal that you are alive. It’s exhausting and there’s no way to turn it off. Let yourself breathe through this, and trust that it is not a waste of time to devote your energy to the work of becoming.
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You Need Help: My Mom Is Offended I Didn’t Come Out To Her Sooner
Your mom is making this about herself, and it’s not fair to you.
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You Need Help: How To Be A Trans Lesbian
Make sure to be kind and generous to yourself, give yourself plenty of time to process all of these important feelings, and don’t rush it!
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You Need Help: How Do I Let Go of Feeling Guilty After Coming Out Late in Life?
I’m happy and grateful to be out, but I can’t get past feeling like I have created pain and difficulty for so many people.
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You Need Help: A Non-Binary Woman Working Through the Gender Feels
“Sometimes, when we allow ourselves to open a door, to open a possibility, the weight of that possibility and that choice is damn heavy – and overwhelming.”
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You Need Help: How Do I Tell If I’m a Butch Cis Woman or a Trans Non-Binary Person?
If I could tell everyone how to differentiate between gender expression feels and gender feels, I’d be Sovereign Ruler of Gender and maybe things would be easier, but probably also a lot less fun.
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You Need Help: You’re Not Sure If You’re a Boy and Gender Is Hard
“A lot of the narrative about gender questioning at large is about tragedy, about what we lose. I encourage you (even though I know it’s challenging) to think about your gender from a different angle. What makes you feel affirmed?”
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You Need Help: Coming Out as Non-Binary in High School
“It’s common to want to tell everyone about your newfound realization about your identity, so that you can feel like you’re living authentically and with integrity. But you get to do whatever feels best to you!”
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You Need Help: Reacting to Misgendering in Public
“Why can’t I just let it roll off me? And do you think there’s a way to react that might make the situation a little less miserable for me?”
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How To Support Your Transitioning Partners and Friends
It can be helpful to see a transition as smaller, interlocked transitions.
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You Need Help: You’re Gay but Oh No You’re Falling for a Man, What the F*ck
“How does one successfully navigate such a dramatic shift in a long-held and cherished identity?! Is it possible to have relationships with men devoid of internalized homophobia, misogyny, etc? Is it worthwhile to tell this person how I feel — could I possibly expect anyone to navigate all this baggage with me?”
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Am I A Lesbian? The Lesbian Masterdoc Is a Popular Source of Answers To This Elusive Question
“The Lesbian Masterdoc” has been making the online rounds since 2018, helping questioning people sort through their experiences with compulsory heterosexuality.
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Celebrating Asexuality’s Glorious Queerness This Ace Week
Even while it is a great time to be ace, anti-ace rhetoric continues to circulate in queer communities.Â
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Untethered: The Designated Girl-Son
I came across the concept of the “designated son” on TikTok.
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Transition Is Allowed To Feel Bad Sometimes
Realistically, I understand that if you do something for 11 months, the chance that you’ll feel good for every second of those 11 months is zero.
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You Need Help: What Should You Do With Your One Wild and Precious Life?
Queer time moves differently than regular time; we’re on our own schedule; we exist outside the rigidity of the patriarchal space-time continuum.
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A Trans Guy’s Guide to the Men’s Bathroom
2) Men do not lock the door.