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You Need Help: My Partner’s Pandemic Practices Suck and I Want to Break Up
Transmitting a deadly virus doesn’t exactly say “I love you,” so it makes sense that this particular conflict is bringing up big questions about your relationship.
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You Need Help: How Do I Get Over Breaking My Ex’s Heart?
Breaking up with someone does not make you an asshole.
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You Need Help: Am I Really “Over Them” Enough to Date New People?
There is no quantifiable metric for being over someone. If you’re ready to date, you’re ready to date.
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You Need Help: Is It Normal To Be Happy In a Relationship and Still Think About an Ex?
Time won’t necessarily “fix” it, but the more distance you have from the relationship and the more time you invest in healthy coping mechanisms, the less destabilizing these thoughts will feel.
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You Need Help: Why Can’t I Break Up With Them?
You owe it to yourself and your partner to be honest.
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You Need Help: Should We Break Up In Quarantine?
Self-isolation is forcing all of us to reflect. Maybe that’s not so bad.
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How Do I Learn To Trust Again After My Two-Month Situationship Ended Abruptly?
“I’m a cis queer woman in my mid-twenties, and I’m mourning yet another 2-3 month-long relationship that ended unexpectedly, and this time it’s messing with me in the way the others haven’t.”
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I Am Desperate for Closure From the Sudden End of a Seven-Month Relationship
Closure is alluring, but it’s not guaranteed in breakups. People don’t always owe us closure.
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You Need Help: Will I Ever Get Over My First Ex or Is Closure a Myth
Closure is a choice — often one you have to make on your own. And it’s absolutely okay to not be friends with an ex.
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You Need Help: Should I Move in With Someone I Used to Date?
Moving in with a former sweetie might sound cute, queer and emotionally mature, but you better have a very good reason to take on the challenge.
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You Need Help: How Do I Stop Thinking About the Ex Who Cheated on Me?
Betrayal burrows into brains. When cheating comes to light, there’s a tendency to obsess over the minute details. You’ll replay things in your head, wonder how they were able to get away with certain things, and sometimes even be hard on yourself for it.
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You Need Help: Should I Get Back Together With My Ex During the Coronavirus Pandemic?
During a time like this, the impulse to want your ex is like the impulse some may have to want their mom. It’s carnal.
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You Need Help: Why Do I Miss My Terrible Ex?
When relationships end, we might feel angry or wistful or hurt. Giving ourselves space for all of those feelings is how we bust through the pain and turn it into growth.
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#PolyamoryProblems: How Do I Know When It’s Time To Break Up?
The idea of breaking up, and/or transitioning your relationship to platonic as somehow a failure or throwing something away is one of those pesky ideas we need to unlearn.
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You Need Help: Post-Divorce Feelings
“It’s so important to learn lessons from past loves without them negatively affecting or preventing us from being able to give our all to future loves. How to do that, though, is so difficult, and I guess is the work of being human.”
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Tempted to Check on Your Ex? Check on Someone Else’s Ex Instead!
More than a few people have been tempted to reach out to their ex as social distancing measures have ramped up. More than a few have acted on that temptation. That impulse might be coming from the right place, but, friends, it’s time to knock if off.
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You Need Help: How Do I NOT Cause a Breakup with a Tough Talk?
“I’ve written them a letter about feeling like I’m getting the short end of the stick, but I’m afraid that it comes off as a break-up letter and I don’t want to break up with them. I really just want to be happy with them.”
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You Need Help: How Do I Break Up With a Casual Someone?
So you want to break up? Don’t be mean. Be honest.
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You Need Help: What’s a Reasonable Reason to Dump Someone?
So you were dumped because…you’re not a vegan?
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You Need Help: You & the Ex Are Friends — But Fight Like You’re Still Together
You broke up a long time ago and you’re cool with each other, but still fight just like you did when you were together. Is that, uh, normal?