I must start this hard-hitting analysis of the best show on television, MTV’s Are You the One?, with a confession: I am a Capricorn.
But with that out of the way… nobody knows how to date! And, no offense, Dr. Frankie does not seem equipped to handle this.
Despite the Black Mirror special effects, the curated matches, and the hope of a million dollars, the AYTO house is more or less like the real world. People talk and drink and dance and flirt. And when they feel a connection they explore that connection and hope for the best.
Also like the real world? Communication is strained at best.
So far we’ve witnessed the Nour/Amber/Justin drama, the Kai/Jenna/Remy drama, the Nour/Amber/Kylie/Kari drama, and last week Justin/Aasha/Max were doing some of the exact same shit.
The show frames Justin exploring things with Aasha as a sign that he’s self-sabotaging with Max. But why?? He and Max just met! Why can’t he be emotionally connected to Max and still see if he also has a connection with Aasha? Max gets so upset, he even calls Justin a piece of trash during the emoji challenge! When did they ever make a commitment to each other to justify this call out? But also why didn’t Justin just tell Max that he wanted to explore other options instead of blaming it on the game? Acknowledge and communicate your desires!
The reason why Nour kissing Kylie was so wrong wasn’t because it would be wrong to kiss Kylie (truly who would not want to kiss Kylie). It was wrong because she and Amber communicated to each other that they would be the reality TV version of monogamous. Nour asked Amber to not kiss anyone on her dates and Amber didn’t! And then Nour turned around and changed the rules for herself.
But no one else in the house established those kinds of boundaries. So why is Kari mad about the kiss and the fivesome? Jealous, sure. People can’t control their feelings. But they can control which of those feelings they interpret as a moral failure on their crush’s part and which they process privately or with a close friend. And by close friend I, of course, mean another stranger in the house who might be their soulmate.
Everyone on AYTO seems to have two settings. Either they’re madly in love with someone and want to immediately be exclusive or they claim to be madly in love with someone and then recklessly fuck around.
The only person in the house who knows how to date is Gemini moon heartthrob Remy. He makes no promises, is upfront about who he is, and he’s actively trying to get to know everyone in the house. Then again, we’re heading into episode six tonight and there are no signs of him forming any real connections.
Maybe part of putting yourself out there is accepting a certain amount of confusion and selfishness. Maybe it’s unreasonable to expect everything to be communicated when people are basically strangers.
Maybe it’s actually my Capricorn ass that doesn’t know how to date.
I love this show, it’s such a delightful mess. I love the AS coverage, thanks for keeping it coming!
For my fellow math nerds out there, some beautiful soul is live-blogging each episode with analysis of all the match probabilities, and it is fantastic. It also gives me some hope for my #1 ship of Remy & Basit. http://areuthe.blogspot.com
OHGODNO the math has betrayed my heart and proclaims that beautiful Basit is matched with that turdwhistle Jonathan! 😫😫😫
Yeah…. I am seeing that in the math as well. Ugh.
ps I love your username :)
It’s so curious though that Basit sensed from the get-go that they were a match. I wonder what’s in it for Basit?
Thank you for this link!
That blackout really crossed out so many matches.
“Gemini heartthrob Remy” >>>
I’ve said this on other threads but I’ll say it again, he is a MUST follow on Twitter. He’s a delight.
“When did they ever make a commitment to each other to justify this call out?”
This has been every season of Are You The One? and it is so painful. Like y’all, just because you drunkenly made out the second night or whatever doesn’t mean you own each other it HURTS TO WATCH.
Full disclosure I’m also a capricorn.
Haha firstly I love this show and agree with you Drew, “When did they ever make a commitment to each other to justify this call out?”
This is what I’m always thinking.
I’m really enjoying the commentary and show recaps.
I am loving this show, it’s so damn messy!!!! But hard agree, no one on this show knows how to date hahaha.
Remy has claimed to be a Taurus on his twitter. I have a lot of questions and would like to see a full birth chart.
We will get to the bottom of this! As journalists!
I may or may not have a full Google Sheet going to try and math out all the matches…. Max/Justin and Jonathan/Basit are strong contenders. So is Danny/Kai….?
After the most recent helpful data dump I may have sat on the ground in my apartment for an hour attempting to do this by hand. I do not have my notes to check but I seem to remember deducing that if Max/Justin are a match then Danny/Kai can’t be. Which is distressing because it increases the likelihood of Basit/Jonathan which I am taking as a personal attack
Does anyone have any idea where to watch this if you live in the UK and don’t have cable? I’d love to see this show but can’t find any workable links!
Try the links at primewire.ag