Love Is Not a Lie: Behind the Scenes of Heather and Stacy’s Wedding

Is love a lie? Great question! We like to joke about it here, because nihilism is one (1) free and legal coping mechanism that's available to us all at any given time of the day and night, but what do we really think? Today we're attempting to find an answer, once and for all, for the record and for the good of the people.

And where did we finally land? Love is not a lie, of course. It can't be.

A+ members get to enjoy this wonderful behind-the-scenes look at Heather and Stacy's wedding!

In the summer of 2010, Stacy tweeted to tell me she'd like to take me for a drink if I ever ended up in New York City for work.

And in January of 2011 I took her up on it, even though I had to fight my way out of a rare Georgia snowstorm to get there.

On December 1, 2020, Stacy and I got married in our living room in New York City. Ten years after meeting online, ten months into New York City's Covid lockdown, nine months after I came down with debilitating chronic illn...

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Heather Hogan

Heather Hogan is an Autostraddle senior editor who lives in New York City with her wife, Stacy, and their cackle of rescued pets. She's a member of the Television Critics Association, the Gay and Lesbian Entertainment Critics Association, and a Rotten Tomatoes Tomatometer critic. You can also find her on Twitter, and Instagram.

Heather has written 1355 articles for us.