The Drop: Lil Nas X’s Dykey Aunts Are Proud of MONTERO (Call Me By Your Name)

The Drop is a new ongoing series where Dani Janae and Shelli Nicole chat about Queer Black Pop Culture. Today they chat about Lil Nas X queer music video MONTERO (Call me By Your Name)


Lil Nas X‘s queer latest video for MONTERO (Call Me By Your Name) has got everybody chatting — Christians, Satanists, queer folks, and even corporations. His debut album, which he has confirmed will also be called MONTERO comes out this summer, and when talking about the video behind the first single he said “It’s brought a new confidence out of me. To be able to say, ‘You know what? I want to do this.’ And I don’t give a fuck who’s upset about it.”

Most of the chatter is around the (stunningly beautiful) visuals of the video and the message behind it all. In it, he strums a pink glitter guitar in a fantasy field garden, gets judged by versions of himself clad in wigs, makeup, and nails, and yes — pole dances down to hell and gives the devil a killer lap dance.

Let’s get into it.


Shelli Nicole: So I know Lil Nas X from his very obvious big hit “Old Town Road.” I loved the song then and low-key still do. All the remixes were dope and I just thought, cool, here is another good new artist, with another good song — can’t wait to hear more. I love that he disrupted the Country scene then and was ruffling all the racist white feathers. Is that when you became aquatinted with him as an artist?

Dani Janae: Yes absolutely, “Old Town Road” came out and I was like who is this kid? Because that song did not leave my head for weeks. I was singing and warbling in my apartment all day. It’s still a very good song

Shelli Nicole: Literal weeks! We should have known he was always going to be a bit of a disrupter though. That song took over all the charts, including the country ones which they quietly and quickly removed him from after deeming it basically “not country enough.” He’s been making people mad and I love that.

Dani Janae: Totally, there’s something so powerful about a young queer Black man storming into the scene that way, especially the staunchly white country scene.

Shelli Nicole: Before we get into the video for MONTERO (Call Me By Your Name) — do you have a history with the church or Christianity?

Lil Nas X queer music video promo Image shows two lil nas X's in a reimaging of the "The creation of Adam" by Michelangelo. They are both sitting in the clouds, one reaches out a finger to touch a hand that is on the end of an arrow.

Dani Janae: Damn that’s a good question. I do have a history with both. I think very similarly to gay people before me I believed in a very white male capital G God that did not believe in me. I grew up believing every bad thought meant I would go to hell. So I just lived in fear for so many years of my childhood. Coming out meant I would go to hell for sure so that’s when I kinda decided my own happiness over serving God

What about you?

Shelli Nicole: I grew up in the church — my dad is actually a pastor.

Both of my parents have a pretty amazing life story, but one short one — after getting clean from drugs and alcohol they refamiliarized themselves with the church and the Lord they knew growing up. My parents have been clean since I was like three, I think, and them becoming so meant that my siblings and I were now part of the church.

So I grew up hearing all the shit the church spews and often got silenced by church folks for asking too many questions. Def heard gay people were going to hell before I knew what “gay” or “hell” even truly was. My parents never spread that kind of hate to me directly, but I know parts of them still believed that and maybe do to this day. This video though — it def bought out some stuff in folks, lol.

Lil Nas X queer promo Image Shows a long curly haired Lil Nas X kissing an alien/snakelike version of himself. The photo is a close-up while a light blue color is the background and a small angel is in the center hovering over their kiss.

Dani Janae: People are ANGRY, it’s honestly not shocking but it’s still heartbreaking to see the backlash. I feel like he handles it so well though.

Shelli Nicole: It’s not shocking in the slightest, everything came up from from every community that you would imagine. “What about the kids watching,” “Black Men & homosexuality = ew,” “strippers are horrible people,” and so on — it’s tired.

Dani Janae: Yes, the “think about the children!” hand wringing is so TIRED. No one thinks about the queer and trans children who are suffering under oppressive language and legislation perpetuated by Christian ideals.

Shelli Nicole: EGG ZAK LEE. When you were growing up, can you think of any music videos that just influenced you and your future so much — in the way that these folks are saying MONTERO will? Or is that not something you can recall? Image shows Lil Nas X with glowing red eyes. There is a red filter across the image and in the center a smaller version of Lil Nas X is coming down a stripper pole upside down.

Dani Janae: It’s funny, the things I always cite as “making me gay” were innocuous things like music videos that were clearly geared toward a hetero audience. Like I was obsessed with video vixens, just watching beautiful Black women dance around influenced me even though I could tell I was not the intended audience. But there was no gay art that condemned me to a life of homosexuality the way folks think Montero will. What about you?

Shelli Nicole: If anything, things like music videos may have slightly confirmed a feeling I already had or gave me a name for it. Mine was the video for Crazy by Aerosmith, seeing how Liv Tyler looked at Alicia Silverstone in this one scene made me go “hmm that’s how I look at girls. I’m not the only one? Cool.”

Going back to how he’s handling it, seems like he’s holding his own. His letter to his 14-year-old self? I fucking cried.

Dani Janae: It has to be so emotional for him. And yeah when I saw that tweet it really resonated with me. Through therapy and stuff, I think a lot about the life I lead as an homage to the frightened little girl I was. The girl that endured a lot of pain but still kept on living. I think many of us queer people live our lives so loud for our younger selves that were often bullied and beaten into submission

Shelli Nicole: For sure, just because I fought back on so many of those Christian ideals when I was younger, doesn’t mean that some of them didn’t stick. Those were the ones that took the most work to rid myself of through things like therapy.

Videos like this make me mad happy for young Black queers. It’s someone on their level showing their rejection of the oftentimes traumatizing cishet Christian ideals many of them are currently being taught. I live for anything that will shorten (or make obsolete) the pain of younger Black queers.

Image shows Lil Nas X stroking a glitter guitar with wavy long locs and a black glitter body suit.

Dani Janae: Yes exactly, if they get to live bolder happier lives because of this then I’m all about it

Shelli Nicole: Let’s get into some lighter territory before we wrap up — favorite part of the video and yes, you can have more than one lol.

Dani Janae: Definitely the part where alien Lil Nas X starts to go down on the other Lil Nas X. I was like “Okay I’ve had that dream before.” But also THE POLE TO HELL OMG

Shelli Nicole: LIKE WHO THINKS OF A POLE DANCE DOWN TO HELLLLLLLLLLLLLL!!!!

Dani Janae: LOL I was like this dude’s mind!

Shelli Nicole: I was a huge fan of all the aunties doing the judgment — when I think of who would judge me about my sapphic sinning, it is def finger-wagging aunts with hair stacked on high.

Shelli Nicole: The visuals are stunning — like, the fact that he used a scene from Spongebob to explain what he saw for that judgment scene? Give him all the monies, please.

Dani Janae: Lol that little fact had me dying

Shelli Nicole: I am fucking sad I can’t put my booty on someone’s daughter to this song though.

Lil Nas X queer promo Image shows Lil Nas X in a denim outfit with blue coiled hair stacked to the top. Long acrylic nails and clad in a diamond necklace and large diamond earrings. A cloudy pink background is behind them.

Dani Janae: It’s so creative and colorful. I feel like we don’t see music videos with this level of creativity much anymore, and YES like I can just picture me dancing on some hottie to this song in a sweaty club. I can’t wait to see the remixes that come out.

Shelli Nicole: OMG remixes, I didn’t think of the remixes!

I just hope that he is clinging to his chosen family — and the given family that accepts him — and keeps coming out with this kind of creative content for us to revel in. If he ever does see this he needs to know that this dykey aunty is proud of him and this dope journey he is on.

Dani Janae: Right? Looking on with tears in our eyes like “Yes baby! Work that pole!”

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Shelli Nicole is a Detroit-raised, Chicago-based writer. Her work has appeared in Bustle, HelloGiggles & Marie Claire. She is terrified of mermaids and teenagers equally.

Shelli has written 81 articles for us.

17 Comments

    • I am absolutely obsessed/possessed! For some reason I feel the same unapologetically gay sexual energy from Lil Nas X in this video that I get from King Princess’ entire musical career- two icons blessing us with spaces where shame makes room for sexy fun!

  1. Been listening to this song non-stop! I can’t wait for the remixes and eventually the full album. I’m obsessed with the theatricality of the video, and if that thread is continued to the album I think that we are in for something really special.

  2. So I’m fully obsessed with this video and Lil Nas X and all his incredible responses to all the hating and honestly full on persecution but really I’m just here to say that the Aerosmith “Crazy” video was also a root for me and that made me so happy to see somebody else who relates. Feels creepier now knowing that’s his daughter but that ain’t my problem.

  3. Happy to read a review of this song and video that’s neither handwringing nor extensive reporting about the handwringing. I learned today that he’s 21! And I think this level of self awareness at 21 is pretty incredible. It’s admittedly kinda fun to watch the Fox News set freak out, but it’s a lot more fun to see a young queer person making art.

  4. Ok I came to Autostraddle today specifically to see what y’all had to say about this lil nas x song & video that I am, like everyone else, obsessed with. I was not disappointed! Thank you! I bought the song and can’t wait to hear more. I love that this man and his HOT art are in the world. Eff the haters; they only hate themselves.

  5. Shelli,oh my goddess,my thoughts exactly when i saw that alicia and liv aerosmith video as an early teen Even though i realised only with 20 that i am ” Kinda gay”, My obsession with watching this video numerous times,and luckily , mtv showed it numerous times, 94 ,was it,,i was 13 years old.should have given me some thought. Anymore queers of my generation did have an unusal fixation on that video? Shelli judging from your pic i would have thought youre much younger than me..

  6. I love this article, the video, the song, and his excitement in the genius lyrics explanation video. Thank you Shelli and Dani Janae!

    One of my favorite writers for The Boston Globe also did a 🔥 article on the video. You might need a subscription, but in case there’s a couple free articles first here’s the link

  7. “Yes, the “think about the children!” hand wringing is so TIRED. No one thinks about the queer and trans children who are suffering under oppressive language and legislation perpetuated by Christian ideals.”

    Exactly!!

    I think this song/video also freaks out cishets on a gender level. Lil Naz is probably the first representation they’ve seen of a strong man who is also a sparkly bottom and they don’t know how to handle it. In the Genius behind the lyrics video on youtube he talks about bottom representation in some of his more sexual lyrics and yeah. Bottomism is totally a thing in the music industry.

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