Also.Also.Also: They’re Children.

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Around the time I first went to put together this evening’s round up, I heard the news about mass shooting in Uvlade, Texas. I’m numb.

I don’t know what else to say, but I’m sending you all a lot of love.

Before we do any other links, here are live updates from The New York Times about the breaking news, it’s not paywalled.

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Read the entire issue here.

Political Snacks

Do you have someone in your life who’s the parent of a school aged child? Someone who’s been personally close before to a mass shooting? I won’t say “check in on your strong friends” but a reminder text that they aren’t alone (not that you need them talk, just that they aren’t alone) sure wouldn’t hurt tonight.

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Carmen Phillips

Carmen is Autostraddle's Editor-in-Chief and a Black Puerto Rican femme/inist writer. She claims many past homes, but left the largest parts of her heart in Detroit, Brooklyn, and Buffalo, NY. There were several years in her early 20s when she earnestly slept with a copy of James Baldwin’s “Fire Next Time” under her pillow. You can find her on twitter, @carmencitaloves.

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  1. before i even read links, please pardon my anxiety-dumping. i work in a preschool. our active shooter training was last month. we learned about all the ways our building in particular could kill us, and to keep the kids off the dry wall because bullets can skate along that path, and that unless our doors are metal they won’t do a thing, and that in an emergency we would have to keep sixteen scared, confused four year olds absolutely silent or the ‘bad actor’ would zero in on us, and that if we got a chance to run we had to do it immediately even if it meant stepping over wounded children and colleagues, and that amped-up police would assume we were dangerous until proven otherwise so make sure to keep our hands up and visible as we fled for our lives.

    i don’t want to know any of this. i was a toddler when columbine happened, and that wasn’t enough. elementary school for virginia tech and that wasn’t enough. high school for newtown when we thought surely that’s enough, they’re first graders for chrissakes, but no. college for msd, on the verge of graduating into a world that keeps proving it doesn’t care about any of us, not even the children. i am so goddamn tired and scared and tired of being scared.

  2. I don’t know what to say either Carmen. I’m angry and frustrated but also numb and mournful. They were just about to go on Summer break. They had so much more to do. We’ll never know the adults that they might have become. Uvlade also happens to have a large Latino population-which adds another layer to all this pain. I heard they had ICE there in the aftermath, which probably made it harder for many parents to go there to see if their children were okay.
    Anyway it’s a lot. The others claim they care about children and yet they do nothing to protect them. It’s not fucking fair.

  3. I tried commenting last night and truly couldn’t find the words because I was so tired from grief over those kids. Not only am I a Texan, but my mom teaches at an elementary school of about that size in a small Texas town. I haven’t stopped worrying about her since Sandy Hook. It’s heartbreaking that it’s been a decade and nothing has changed. I’m so tired.

  4. we could all vote like everyone’s lives depend on it – there’s midterm elections happening. look for candidates who believe that guns laws should change, as a start.

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