A+ Roundtable: Our First Times Having “Queer” Sex

So this is actually a really complicated and sticky prompt, right? Because, what even is queer sex? What even is a first time? Where do you draw the line? Do you have to draw a line? Is queer sex any sex a queer person has? Does it require both / all people to be queer / lesbian / gay / bisexual? I'm really not afraid to say I don't know and I'm not going to answer that for you because only you can answer what it means to you, for yourself. As Drew says in her response, which, when I read it I nodded and said "yes absolutely" out loud: "I think we get to choose our own firsts." I think she's really spot on. We make our own rules, define our own firsts, tell our own stories.

The Autostraddle team approached this prompt in a lot of differe...

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