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11 Books for Getting Started with Polyamory and Non-Monogamy

Search polyamory and you’ll see the term partnered with words like “sexual revolution” and “on the rise” in several news pieces on the subject. Surely, there’s more to non-monogamy than sex, or the rebellion of joining a fad? What could it take to make being open/ polyamorous/ non-monogamous work? Eleven books and the internet’s idea of a “sexual revolution” bookshelf later, I present to you a list of some major titles relevant to queer women.


Why We Have an Open Relationship: A Dialogue on Queer Polyamory for Lesbians

Do you have a girlfriend? That’s fine. I also have a girlfriend. But I think you’re cute, and you think I’m cute, and let’s not waste all this cuteness and attraction just because we both have girlfriends. I’m sorry, did that come off a little harsh? It wasn’t supposed to. It’s just what a conversation might sound like in a world where monogamy wasn’t the norm. Contrary to popular belief, monogamy and fidelity are not one in the same. Take it from two lesbians – real lesbians – who have both been in serious relationships, both open and exclusive, and are still trying to figure out what exactly that means.


Into the A+ Advice Box #35: Summer 2021 Dating Edition!

For the first themed A+ Advice Box in our new themed series, you asked questions about dating yourself after having a kid, dating your partner after lockdown, using dating apps when you are tired of screens in general, getting into casual dating, dating again after time periods ranging from 7 months to 4 years, whether love is a lie, and more!