Monogamy and polyamory exist on a spectrum and often aren’t fixed black-and-white categories.

How did a show about the ability to share connections with anyone in the world become about locking someone down??

Stroking an Animal is an arthouse movie that reflects the messiness of real queer lives.

“The right people will understand this. Trust that you will find them.”

Communicating openly about sex and pelvic health with my partners helps me advocate for myself in medical settings.

I wish I could send pieces of this book to all of the people I have ever loved.

For some polyam newbies, big feelings can make you feel out of control. Dating experienced people can be a gift, but it could also mean that you defer to your partner’s word instead of advocating for your needs. Find out why you should never stand for someone telling you that having feelings means you’re not really polyamorous.

This month, jealousy rears its pesky head for one polyamory veteran. Find out how to normalize jealousy, decode your feelings, and reframe jealousy as a gift to point you towards exploration and growth.

The first thing I thought when I saw this episode was coming out was damn, Willow is about to put herself through some emotional labor trying to explain this aspect of her life — and my goodness do I hope it’s worth it.

Polyamory is all fun and games until you get an STI from one partner and then your other partner shames you for it. STIs aren’t fun, but they do happen. Learn how to discuss safety frameworks, talk about the risks, and actively engage with consent.

Stop trying to make your vanilla partner more kinky!

Feeling made invisible by your own partner’s choices to not come out as both queer and polyamorous is tough. This edition of #PolyamoryProblems dives into how to deal with a partner who is living in a double closet.

You’ve been vetoed — that truly sucks! A veto is where each person in a relationship has the power to end the other person’s relationships — “I vote against you dating this person. Break up with them now because I said so and I’m the most important, thanks!!”

Is the era of polyamory over? Are more queer people returning to monogamy? Or is it just a shift in the cultural conversation?

Welcome to the first installment of #PolyamoryProblems, a new advice column on Autostraddle. There are countless things I wish I had known before I started out, and lucky for you I’m here to tell you the things that will hopefully make your transition into polyamorous relationships much smoother.

Topics include sex work in Rio, a polyamory conference, a men’s rights conference, Adam Levine, the two Baltimores, student debt and moar!

The idea of breaking up, and/or transitioning your relationship to platonic as somehow a failure or throwing something away is one of those pesky ideas we need to unlearn.

Get a first look at Queens of the Dead! Plus, Miley Cyrus shares which tattoos she regrets, and Reneé Rapp on trying out polyamory in the past.

My experience of love has been marked by learning, mistakes, and lost relationships.

“I’m a lesbian in my early twenties and I have been in a relationship with my enby partner for a year and a half. We share a flat with several other (queer) people in Copenhagen, one of whom is my partner’s ex-girlfriend.”