For some polyam newbies, big feelings can make you feel out of control. Dating experienced people can be a gift, but it could also mean that you defer to your partner’s word instead of advocating for your needs. Find out why you should never stand for someone telling you that having feelings means you’re not really polyamorous.
Stop trying to make your vanilla partner more kinky!
The first thing I thought when I saw this episode was coming out was damn, Willow is about to put herself through some emotional labor trying to explain this aspect of her life — and my goodness do I hope it’s worth it.
Polyamory is all fun and games until you get an STI from one partner and then your other partner shames you for it. STIs aren’t fun, but they do happen. Learn how to discuss safety frameworks, talk about the risks, and actively engage with consent.
This month, jealousy rears its pesky head for one polyamory veteran. Find out how to normalize jealousy, decode your feelings, and reframe jealousy as a gift to point you towards exploration and growth.
You’ve been vetoed — that truly sucks! A veto is where each person in a relationship has the power to end the other person’s relationships — “I vote against you dating this person. Break up with them now because I said so and I’m the most important, thanks!!”
Feeling made invisible by your own partner’s choices to not come out as both queer and polyamorous is tough. This edition of #PolyamoryProblems dives into how to deal with a partner who is living in a double closet.
The idea of breaking up, and/or transitioning your relationship to platonic as somehow a failure or throwing something away is one of those pesky ideas we need to unlearn.
Boundaries are our manifestations of how we deserve to be treated and what we will accept from others.
Welcome to the first installment of #PolyamoryProblems, a new advice column on Autostraddle. There are countless things I wish I had known before I started out, and lucky for you I’m here to tell you the things that will hopefully make your transition into polyamorous relationships much smoother.
We released a list of books to read at the end of March for those interested in getting started with polyamory and non-monogamy. These resources go beyond books to blogs, podcasts, movies… so here are eight podcast episodes to get you started on polyamory and non-monogamy during this lockdown!
Search polyamory and you’ll see the term partnered with words like “sexual revolution” and “on the rise” in several news pieces on the subject. Surely, there’s more to non-monogamy than sex, or the rebellion of joining a fad? What could it take to make being open/ polyamorous/ non-monogamous work? Eleven books and the internet’s idea of a “sexual revolution” bookshelf later, I present to you a list of some major titles relevant to queer women.
Always a side piece and never a main piece? We’ve got you covered.
“Polyamory and queerness are pretty much inseparable for me in practice.”
Here’s how a 23 year old polyam queer femme living in Long Beach, CA, in a long-term relationship does poly.
How a a 28-year-old white genderfluid bisexual in recovery from an eating disorder/anxiety/depression does polyamory.
What happens when first love and first heartbreak features a cast of three.
Do you have a girlfriend? That’s fine. I also have a girlfriend. But I think you’re cute, and you think I’m cute, and let’s not waste all this cuteness and attraction just because we both have girlfriends. I’m sorry, did that come off a little harsh? It wasn’t supposed to. It’s just what a conversation might sound like in a world where monogamy wasn’t the norm. Contrary to popular belief, monogamy and fidelity are not one in the same. Take it from two lesbians – real lesbians – who have both been in serious relationships, both open and exclusive, and are still trying to figure out what exactly that means.
While Feel Good season two is certainly not lacking in laugh-out-loud moments or Mae Martin’s endless charm, it’s also a very heavy experience.
For the first themed A+ Advice Box in our new themed series, you asked questions about dating yourself after having a kid, dating your partner after lockdown, using dating apps when you are tired of screens in general, getting into casual dating, dating again after time periods ranging from 7 months to 4 years, whether love is a lie, and more!