• We Aren’t Failures: Naming What Was Lost as an Agender Person

    “Other people built a gender for me and trusted that I would defend what they built. But what I was handed never made sense.”

  • A Queer African Tale: On Trauma, Gender Transitions and Acceptance

    “Dating broken white women became a way to reprise a powerlessness that years of sexual abuse and generations of blackphobia had tricked me into believing in. I drowned this feeling of powerlessness in weed and seeking out relationships in which I could engage in yet remain completely hidden from view.”

  • It’s A Boy*!

    It’s a boy, until and unless he tells us otherwise, I thought. It’s a boy who will be raised without gender roles. It’s a boy who will be defined by their heart and mind, not by the organs that happen to be between their legs. It’s a boy who will be loved wholly, deeply, and completely by the two women who created him.

  • Butch Please: Butch and Boundaries

    Why is it that time and time again, people act like they can’t make me uncomfortable? That as a butch — as well as a queer person, a top, someone who likes to flirt and be sexual just like most human beings — it’s impossible to sexually harass me?

  • Butch Please: Butch on the Streets

    There is something strange about the street harassment I receive as a butch in that it is often terrifying and extremely triggering, but something about it makes me feel justified. I am glad these men see me as a threat.