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First Person Gender

I Stopped Tweezing in Quarantine and Realized I’m Nonbinary

On the 24th day of quarantine, I turned on all of the lamps in my room and took off all my clothes. Then I stood in front of the mirror and stared.

Rae Nieves November 10, 2020 25 Comments
Gender

You Need Help: A Non-Binary Woman Working Through the Gender Feels

“Sometimes, when we allow ourselves to open a door, to open a possibility, the weight of that possibility and that choice is damn heavy – and overwhelming.”

Archie August 12, 2019 19 Comments
Money + Work

You Need Help: Coming Out as Non-Binary at Work

Our gender is not a burden, the binary mainstream society is. You are wonderful, I’m so proud of you for reaching out. Take what works from my suggestions, and know I’ll be hoping it all turns out for the best.

Araguaney R. Da Silva November 9, 2017 33 Comments
Gender

What is Agender? Five Things You Should Know

This will be familiar territory for many of you (and that’s great!), but for anyone who isn’t as well-versed, let the learning begin!

A. Stiffler April 23, 2014 41 Comments
Society + Culture

Facebook Wants You To Do You, Adds New Non-Binary Pronoun and Gender Identity Options

Facebook has released an update that allows users to move beyond binary pronouns and the male/female gender options they’ve had since the social network launched a decade ago. Here’s how to change your settings.

Kaitlyn February 13, 2014 77 Comments
LGBT History

More Than Words: Pronouns Pt. 3 – They Said/Ze Said

The grammatical is political.

Cara August 26, 2013 25 Comments

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