Results for: be the change
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Bottoms Up: Ch-ch-changes
As my gender expression changes, so does who I’m attracted to.
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Shibari 101: Let’s Talk About Japanese Rope Bondage
Welcome to Shibari 101, your chance to learn the building blocks of Japanese rope bondage! Today, we’re talking about history, basics and safety.
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View From The Top: Five Favorite Protocols
Within D/s relationships specifically, protocols are explicit, negotiated with the needs and best interests of everyone in mind, subject to change based on reflection and consent.
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View From The Top: From Physical to Psychological
“But when we changed the game a little, and added just a few little things, our play soared to new mountain summits I hadn’t even known we could reach, or let alone want.”
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Poly Pocket: Balancing Comfort and Desire
How a 23-year-old bisexual polyamorous nonbinary femme xicanx in two very loving relationships does poly.
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View From The Top: Where I’ve Been
Before any of my other sexuality identities, I was kinky.
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Bottoms Up: I Am Enough
I get it now. Hot toppy girls will like me just as I am or they won’t get to like me at all. I am good enough.
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View From The Top: The Thing About Sadism
I want to break things — holes, walls, people. I want to feel the begging in my pelvis and let it ignite the fire under me to burn bright up my spine and light up all my colors.
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Bottoms Up: What Limits?
Sex doesn’t exist in a vacuum, but what if during the act, it did? What if all I focused on during sex was consent and pleasure?
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View From The Top: How Topping Taught Me Physics And Feminism
Trusting physics, trusting agency, trusting desire, and trusting the people I played with changed everything.
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Bottoms Up: A Way To Move Through The World
I started to see submission as less about what happens in play and more about a way to approach the world.
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View From The Top: Playing Through Depression
It’s almost impossible to master while grieving. When that grief turns into a depression, is it even M/s anymore?
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Bottoms Up: Did My Feminist Ancestors Burn Their Bras For This?
I’ve worked hard to hold onto my independence, and here I was giving it up — to someone more dominant and more masculine. My feminist ancestors didn’t burn their bras for this. Except what if they did?
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View From The Top: Giving Orders
Giving orders is more than the words coming out of my mouth. It’s the tone of voice I use, the eye contact, the confidence, the ease with which I speak.
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View From the Top: Dominant Fantasy vs. Dominant Reality
I have to be willing to reveal the messy, intimate parts of my life to have this authority exchange really work 24/7. Otherwise, it just isn’t sustainable.
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Bottoms Up: Nope That Word Is Not For Me
“I cannot wait to have a partner with whom I can explore consensual non-consent in a 24/7 lifestyle. But to be called a slave? In America?”
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View From The Top: Polka Dots, Packing, and Protocol
We started to turn the top/bottom dynamics in our sex life into 24/7 dominance/submission. It was highly negotiated, mutually consensual, and extremely hot.
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Bottoms Up: My Time In The Dungeon
“I was on my ninth cigarette when the dom about to give me the most affirming experience I’d had as a sub came to stand next to me.”
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View From The Top: Coming and Crying; Master and Slave
“Master and slave — in consensual, intentional contexts — are the precise words for the cravings I have in my heart and gut to own, control, protect and nurture my partner.”
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View From The Top: How I Went From Top To Dominant
I wanted her to crawl over to the toy box and fetch the cane, then bring it back to me in her mouth. I wanted to tell her what to do. And I wanted it to be for my direct pleasure.