Results for: be the change
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All the Chaotic Gay Questions I’ve Asked on a First Date
“Do you have color-changing LED light bulbs and/or light strips?”
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You Need Help: All I Want Is a Relationship But I Can’t Make it Past the First Date
“How do I somehow give off that I’m girlfriend material? I just want to be wanted back for a change.”
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You Need Help: I’m Uncertain About Wanting Kids, So Should I Only Date People Who Are Uncertain Too?
I’ve changed my mind about wanting kids throughout life, and that’s okay.
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You Need Help: Wanting To Move In Together but Unsure About Sharing Bed With Dog
“My girlfriend has a super sweet lab mix who I love dearly, but I’m very new to the concept of sleeping with a dog in the bed. I thought they made dog beds for this exact reason?!”
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You Need Help: How Do I Date With Devastatingly Low Self-Esteem?
Approach cultivating a friendship with yourself as you would with other people.
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A Love Letter to Cuddle Dates
I love cuddle dates because they’re my neurodivergent heaven: comfy and quiet. They also fit into anti-heteronormative approaches to romance and affection.
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You Need Help: How Do I Get Back Into Dating at Age 54?
As a culture, we spend a lot of time talking about all of the ways that dating can suck; it becomes easy to forget how fun it can actually be!
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I’ve Been Non-Monogamous for Eight Years — These Are My Mistakes and Lessons for Happier Loving
My experience of love has been marked by learning, mistakes, and lost relationships.
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I Spent All of Quarantine Craving a Crush – Post-Vaccination, I’ll Have to Discover What I Really Want
Am I excited for the backdrops of my stories to vary? To have more sex? To meet people in real life? To fuck a couple and leave? To fly to a new place and stay? Of course. But do I think my emotional behavior is going to be changed by my second vaccine? Unlikely.
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You Need Help: Am I Invisible to Other LGBTQIA People?
There isn’t a secret formula for attracting others, but confidence does go a long way.
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You Need Help: My Partner Won’t Say “I Love You”
Is it silly to be hung up on this?
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You Need Help: On Dating During a Health Scare
I am sending you and your person all my love and wishes for competent and compassionate medical care, swift healing, and fruitful conversations in the future about your growing relationship.
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How To Support a Sex Partner With an Eating Disorder
I now have three years of recovery and a wonderful girlfriend by my side. I think I’m ready to talk about ways we can support our partners who have eating disorders.
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Eight Things I’ve Learned While Dating at 28
I could not have taken on the past year of dating without my best friends.
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Join Autostraddle for a Virtual Workshop on COVID-19 and Queer Sexual Health
Do you have questions about sex and dating during an ongoing pandemic? Register for our virtual workshop!
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You Need Help: Can I Date While Living With My Homophobic Parents?
Dating can be amazing and wonderful. But if you currently rely on homophobic parents for material support, it may be time to focus on planning the next stage of your life — one where you are less dependent on your parents, and have the space to fully be yourself.
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You Need Help: How Do I Flirt When I’m Worried About Coming On Too Strong
I’m black and masculine so I’m worried that if I tried to make a move it would come off too strong, which I know I really shouldn’t but we live in a world.
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You Need Help: My Crush Is Dating Someone Else and I Feel Very Jealous
You don’t always get the girl, and that’s okay.
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I Used to ‘Compensate’ for My Blackness in the Dating World — Now I Embrace It
As a teen, my insecurities made me feel like my Blackness was something that dragged down my worth.
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A Trans Guy’s Guide to Grindr
You don’t have to preemptively feel shame about your body parts. Do you know how many cis gay men hate their bodies? Why do you think Equinox exists?