Results for: no fucks to give
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What Does It Mean to Be a “Bottom” or “Submissive” in Lesbian Sex?
What does it mean when to identify as a “bottom” or a “submissive” in queer sex? I come armed with data and some very vague answers.
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Service Tops, Bratty Bottoms and Pillow Princesses: Other Words You Use to Describe How You Have Sex
We’ve been talking about tops, bottoms and switches for a few weeks and today we’re doing a little glossary of the other words you use to describe how you have sex!
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Let’s Talk About (Queer) Sex: Power Dynamics Are in the Eye of the Beholder
What do we feel our sexual IDs “mean” about us as “people”? Do they have overlaps with our sense of self outside of bed? Do we notice others assuming these things about us (or projecting them onto us)? If so, is that annoying or helpful? Do they get at authentic ways that our sexual dynamics are natural expressions of other parts of our personhood?
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14 Knuckles: Can Two Switches Have Sex?
Can two switches have sex? I think so, and I think there is something beautifully different about having sex with someone with whom sexual options are truly abundant.
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Let’s Talk About (Queer) Sex: So You’re a Top/Bottom/Switch
How have you defined (or not) your role over time? Has it changed, did you at first think you “were” one thing and now you ID differently? how did that feel and what did it bring up? How do you ID now, and where do you see it as part of that ~ journey ~?
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Ain’t I A Bottom
Many Black women are raised to give our apparent struggles the stiff upper lip. We’re taught to be loud, and proud, and bigger than the world sees us. And at the end of all of that effort, in my most private and intimate moments, I wish to lay my burdens down. Ain’t I a bottom?
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Topping From the Bunker: Tips for Long-Distance Kink
Good news: there are no geographic limits to being a kinky slut, and I’m willing to lend you my perverted imagination.
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Started from the Bottom: A Lifelong Bottom’s Adventures in Topping
Much like how everyone told us “OMG you’re both Geminis? This will never work,” we were also told “OMG you’re both bottoms? This will never work.” Joke’s on everyone else; the healthiest relationship and the best sex of my life has been with another bottom.
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What Does It Mean To Be a Switch in Lesbian Sex?
Today we’re using our sex survey data to talk about switches and also about those of you who identified as NONE OF THE ABOVE. Which is fine!
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What Does It Mean to Be a “Top” or a “Dominant” in Lesbian Sex?
It’s time for part two of our series on what queer women and trans people are talking about when they talk about tops, bottoms and switches. Today we are taking your love ON TOP.