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First Person TV Feature

Slow Takes: “12 Dates of Christmas” and When Transphobia Makes You a Chaos Demon

If you want to live in a reality show, go ahead and sow chaos, but if you’d rather have a romcom, you have to let go.

Drew Burnett Gregory July 7, 2022 4 Comments
First Person TV Feature

From Willow to Waverly: A Decade of Being Out and Me and Queer TV

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First Person TV Feature

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“I have enough of my own grief, I don’t need yours, too.”

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First Person TV Feature

“Transparent” Changed Me (And TV) Forever

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Original Shenny Fan Fiction: “This Is What I Want”

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First Person TV Feature

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