“It’s another day and another event at the converted church, Paradiso with DJs playing everything from Arabic edits to Afro House and baile funk. This time, I’ve accidentally attended what seems to be an exclusively Gen Z night and I am about ten years older than everyone there.” This week, we’re following a 29-year-old queer woman in Amsterdam as she embarks on a week of putting herself out there after a dating hiatus.

Welcome to A+ Sex Diaries, an A+ feature for Silver & Gold members in which we publish seven days in our sex lives. This week: A single, soft butch writer openly dating multiple people. Lesbian, 32, the American west.