20 Lesbian Slang Terms You’ve Never Heard Before

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The following terms were listed and defined in the 1989 Alyson Almanac‘s “Dictionary of Slang and Historical Terms.” Most of the terms in the dictionary referenced gay male activities, but there were plenty of special lesbian words I’d never heard before in my whole life and so many words for VAGINA.



terms and definitions remain intact

1. BAMBI-SEXUALITY: Physical interaction centered more about touching, kissing, and caressing than around genital sexuality. Not to be confused with bestiality, a very different concept.

2. MAKE SCISSORS OF SOMEONE: To masturbate a woman by simultaneously rubbing her clitoris with the thumb and her anus with the forefinger.

3. KIKI: 1940s slang for a lesbian comfortable with either a passive or aggressive partner.

4. DESPERATION NUMBER: A sex partner found just before closing time at the bar.

5. BUMPER-TO-BUMPER: Vagina-to-vagina. Generally used in reference to two lesbians engaging in sex, or dancing, etc. Occasionally used in referring to gay men or heterosexual couples.

6. FUNCH: A quick sexual encounter performed at lunchtime.

7. JOHNSON BAR: A dildo.

8. JANEY: Vagina.

9. KISSING FISH: Lesbians.

10. DADDLE: To engage in lesbian sex, in a face-to-face position.

11. GILLETTE BLADE: A bisexual woman.

12. LUKE: The coital fluid in a woman.

13. MISSIONARY WORK: An attempt by a gay man or lesbian to seduce a straight person of the same sex.

14. HOLD A BOWLING BALL: To sexually stimulate another woman by rubbing the thumb and forefinger, simultaneously, on her clitoris and anus.

15. CANTONESE GROIN: A dildo. The term appears in a medieval novel, describing a plant used in China for this purpose.

16. DISHONORABLE DISCHARGE: To masturbate at home after unsuccessfully going out in search of a sex partner.

17. MOLLY DYKE: The more passive woman in a lesbian relationship or liaison.

18. SLACKS: A lesbian. The term is now considered obsolete.

19. TIT KING: A lesbian attracted to women with large breasts.

20. MUFFER: A woman who muffs / muff-dives.

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  1. I will try my best to use as many of these words as possible. Also sort of relevent, there is a lesbo bar in Toronto called Slacks. I thought it was referring to masculine women wearing pants or some stereotype like that. interesting.

  2. Someone had to do it, right? Might as well be me…

    Today was the day I exclaimed to myself! I was going out to FUNCH with Jenny! Jenny and I met at a local club in Los Angeles, where we engaged in BUMPER TO BUMPER all night long! She had told me about her MISSIONARY WORK and I was in awe of how compassionate she felt toward such work. Being the KIKI that I am, I didn’t mind her BAMBI-SEXUALITY at first, but then I remembered how much of a TIT KING I was and she did not disappoint! We were both total SLACKS in the bedroom and she seemed to be a MOLLY DYKE. I put on my JOHNSON BAR and remembered how much I loved to HOLD A BOWLING BALL! A week ago I had a DISHONORABLE DISCHARGE because I couldn’t find my DESPERATION NUMBER at the local club I frequent, until I met Jenny. Jenny was a total MUFFER, she was no GILLETTE BLADE and her JANEY was beautiful. We skee-DADDLE’d in my bedroom for a little while, then I told her how much I would love to try my CANTONESE GROIN on her. This was the moment I was waiting for, TO MAKE SCISSORS OF SOMEONE! We were KISSING FISH and the sound of her moans reminded me of that LUKEwarm feeling, two women have when merging together for the first time. It was HEAVEN and I was so happy I met and found Jenny!

  3. In Utah ‘missionary work’ has a completely different meaning. I can use it in casual conversation and people passing by will think I’m a saint when in reality I’m fucking their Mormon daughters.

  4. I am now making it my mission for today to figure out a way to make ‘Tit King’ my new twitter handle.

    On a side note: ‘Janie’s Got a Gun’ was playing on my boss’ itunes in our office when I was reading this and I about spit out my coffee when I read the definition of ‘Janey’ on the list. I love when Autostraddle articles sync up with things going on around me.

  5. I am thrilled to learn the term Molly Dyke. People should know this word so I can identify myself. People think I’m turning them down when really I just need them to be super aggressive at first. Also I need more Bambi-sexuality in my life.

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  7. Just to clear up, in the drag queen community kiki is slang for gossip and kai kai is slang for two drag queens who have sex with each other. It’s confusing but I have a source to verify this information which is an episode from rupaul’s drag race from the most recent season. It was explained in the episode when they have a political debate and PhiPhi wants her campaign slogan to be “kiki with PhiPhi” to which Dan Savage says something to the effect of “isn’t that when two drag queens sex each other” and RuPaul corrects him and tells him to kiki is to gossip & that kai kai is when two drag queens have sexy times.

    TL:DR to kiki is to gossip. to kai kai is drag queen sexy times

    • I’d also like to cite, for the record, the Scissor Sisters’ “Let’s Have a Kiki,” which is practically a drag anthem: “A kiki is a party, for calming all your nerves; we’re sipping tea and dishing just desserts one may deserve.”

  8. I believe there is a great need in this country for the “missionary work” detailed in this article. Perhaps I can do some grant writing through my school. Charity begins at home and spreads abroad.

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  17. In the 1970s and 80s… and 90s for that matter… everyone I knew used kiki to mean a lesbian who did not identify as either butch or fem. It didn’t say anything about what kind of partner she wanted.

    I haven’t heard the term used at all in the past couple of decades, but I’m not as in circulation now as I used to be, so I don’t know if it’s gone out of use or changed meanings or if I’m just out of the loop.

    Speaking of “the loop”– I lived in Chicago in the 1980s, and Chicago’s downtown (the business district) was called “The Loop” (I’m sure it still is, actually). And now that I think about it, I think that ought to be worked into some kind of sexual slang, as well. I mean, “I’m going to the Loop” = “I’m going downtown…” and as in other areas of life, being “out of the loop” implies not getting any action….

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