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for your consideration

First Person

For Your Consideration: Knowing When It’s Over

You have to know when to end things, and you have to follow through with it.

By Kayla| August 6, 2019 | 44 Comments
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For Your Consideration: Donating to Autostraddle

For the past five-ish years, I have worked in the hellish, uncertain landscape known as the media industry. I have written for well over a dozen publications. None have made me feel more valued for my work than Autostraddle.

By Kayla| July 23, 2019 | 11 Comments
First Person

For Your Consideration: Bridges

When everything starts moving too fast, I like to walk on bridges.

By Kayla| July 9, 2019 | 14 Comments
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First Person

For Your Consideration: Introduction to Women’s Studies

I didn’t know then that Devon would become one of those women in my life who’s there for good, who I could not text for months and then suddenly dive right back in with. One of those friends who would show up, who would stay.

By Kayla| June 25, 2019 | 14 Comments
Food and Drink

For Your Consideration: Eating Seafood With Your Hands

Over the past four years, I fell in love, traveled many places, had my heart broken, unraveled. I also ate a lot of seafood platters. Here are some of them.

By Kayla| May 28, 2019 | 22 Comments
Sex + Relationships

For Your Consideration: 30 Slightly Unhinged Post-Breakup Activities That Aren’t Actually That Bad

Embrace a little chaos without getting in trouble with your therapist.

By Kayla| May 14, 2019 | 138 Comments
Advice

For Your Consideration: Asking for Directions

I don’t know who needs to hear this, but it is perfectly fine and legal to ask someone for directions when you are lost.

By Kayla| April 30, 2019 | 12 Comments
First Person

For Your Consideration: Changing Associations After a Breakup

For when wiping the slate completely clean isn’t really an option.

By Kayla| April 16, 2019 | 19 Comments
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First Person

For Your Consideration: This Stupid F*cking Juice

This cold-pressed, organic, lacto-fermented, natural, biodynamic, raw juice is the answer to all my problems, surely.

By Kayla| April 2, 2019 | 20 Comments
First Person

For Your Consideration: Chaos Journaling

It’s like bullet journaling except not at all!

By Kayla| March 19, 2019 | 28 Comments
Food and Drink

For Your Consideration: Make the Bisque

Become a kitchen top, even if just for one day.

By Kayla| March 5, 2019 | 14 Comments
First Person Sex + Relationships

For Your Consideration: Read Your Enemy’s Horoscope

If you are seeking wise, wholesome advice about heartbreak, this is admittedly not the right place to find it today.

By Kayla| February 19, 2019 | 12 Comments
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For Your Consideration: Revisiting The Books You Loved in Middle School

You’d be surprised the kind of memories that can be sparked by a simple phrase or even by the look and feel of a book.

By Kayla| February 5, 2019 | 48 Comments
First Person Television

For Your Consideration: What (Not) to Watch After You’ve Been Cheated On

While recovering from being cheated on, you’re honestly best off bingeing unscripted cooking series or documentaries about serial killers or just not watching TV at all and instead playing The Sims, where you can create your own fantastical world where nobody cheats and where if they do there are immediate consequences.

By Kayla| January 22, 2019 | 27 Comments
First Person

For Your Consideration: Drinking Just Way Too Much Tea

How many cups of tea does it take to get to the center of what’s really wrong? A lot.

By Kayla| January 8, 2019 | 45 Comments
DIY / Crafting / Food / Home

For Your Consideration: Throwing a Highly Specific Themed Party For No Particular Reason

Here’s a secret: The best parties actually have no occasion attached (sometimes the occasion is that you feel dead inside).

By Kayla| December 27, 2018 | 29 Comments
First Person

For Your Consideration: For Your Consideration

Bear with me here.

By Kayla| December 11, 2018 | 40 Comments
DIY / Crafting / Food / Home

For Your Consideration: Candles

Fill your space with candles, because sometimes you just need to watch something burn.

By Kayla| November 27, 2018 | 39 Comments
Arts + Pop Culture Music

For Your Consideration: Weekly Karaoke

Once you start going to karaoke every week, you can process your emotions in real-time via song just like a character in a movie musical.

By Kayla| November 13, 2018 | 18 Comments
Music

For Your Consideration: Repeat One

Listening to the same song on a ceaseless loop is intensely satisfying.

By Kayla| October 30, 2018 | 63 Comments
Visual Art

For Your Consideration: Devastating Art When You’re Devastated

If you’re going to be emotionally raw for the rest of the day, why not surround yourself with devastatingly beautiful art to cauterize those wounds?

By Kayla| October 16, 2018 | 15 Comments
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