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You Need Help: How Do I Get My Best Friend to Go to Therapy?
“Here is the good news—your best friend does have a therapist! Here is the bad news—that therapist is you!”
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You Need Help: Is It Normal To Be Happy In a Relationship and Still Think About an Ex?
Time won’t necessarily “fix” it, but the more distance you have from the relationship and the more time you invest in healthy coping mechanisms, the less destabilizing these thoughts will feel.
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You Need Help: How Do I Stop Thinking About the Ex Who Cheated on Me?
Betrayal burrows into brains. When cheating comes to light, there’s a tendency to obsess over the minute details. You’ll replay things in your head, wonder how they were able to get away with certain things, and sometimes even be hard on yourself for it.
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You Need Help: Why Am I So Tempted to Cheat?
Cheating is a form of escape from our current situation; it allows us to momentarily be with someone else, maybe even be someone else, for a night. Honesty has consequences. Cheating, if we don’t get caught, does not.
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You Need Help: So Your Best Friend Is a SWERF
If you are out to your friend, or are thinking of coming out to her, and she still holds fast to her SWERF-y beliefs even after you explain how it hurts you, then you have one final choice to make: Stay, or go.
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You Need Help: Seeking Poly People and (Relationship) Anarchy in Small Town, U.S.A.
The first statement of the Relationship Anarchy Manifesto is that “Love is abundant,” so why don’t we start there? Love is abundant. What kind of love do you want to create in your life?
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The 8 Most Asked You Need Help Questions, Answered
Love and sex and internalized homophobia and, yes, straight girls.
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You Need Help: Your Girlfriend Makes More Money Than You, Just Wants to Have Fun
“How can I support the way she wants to live and not drown in debt?”
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You Need Help: Is Love Really a Lie? Should You Even Try?
It’s a hard time to have hope, but friends, don’t give up.
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Y’All Need Help #28: Being Careful With Your Sex Eyes
Keeping it casual with straight gals, wondering if your kid and divorce will torpedo your lesbian dating life, and feeling disconnected from the queer community post-breakup. Plus some updates from past advice seekers! Let’s go!
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Y’All Need Help #29: What to Wear, When to Quit
Impress your tattoo artist, confront your braggy woke friend, leave your fiancee, plus two HR questions get answered by a real professional!
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You Need Help: Long-Distance Relationships
So far away! Courtney Trouble gets blunt about LDRs.
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You Need Help: How to Break In Your New Wedding Shoes
Cobbler-free tricks for softening your shoes, and saving your soles.
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Y’All Need Help #23: Spring Cleaning Part 2
30 questions! IS ONE OF THEM YOURS?? Wow!
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Y’All Need Help #25: Spring Cleaning Part 4
Did someone say they needed me to answer 19 questions in one post?? No, they did not, but I did it anyway!!
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You Need Help: How Do I NOT Cause a Breakup with a Tough Talk?
“I’ve written them a letter about feeling like I’m getting the short end of the stick, but I’m afraid that it comes off as a break-up letter and I don’t want to break up with them. I really just want to be happy with them.”
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You Need Help: Do I Disclose That I Haven’t Had Sex In a While?
“How do I own up to this as if it’s the most normal thing for me to have done?” Well guess what — not having sex IS a normal thing! I have the great pleasure today of telling you that you’re normal.
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You Need Help: Making Friends as a Queer Adult
“How exactly do I make new friends, especially queer ones? This is the first time I’ve been not-in-school for a long time.”
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You Need Help: You Don’t Know How You Feel About Non-monogamy
Sometimes the girl you have a crush on has an open girl/boy/boifriend and you’ve never even thought about non-monogamy before. Here’s how to start.
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You Need Help: Are You Asexual or Was Having Sex With Dudes Just the Worst?
“I was bred as a Southern Baptist, which gave me plenty of reasons not to let a guy touch my boobs. For example, it would break Jesus’ heart. And also I would go to hell.”