Into the A+ Advice Box #4: Non-Monogamy, Wanting What You Can’t Have, Yearning to Flee the Suburbs and More

Welcome to the third edition of Into the A+ Advice Box, in which we answer advice questions from A+ members who submitted their questions into our A+ ask box because they wanted their questions answered in a space that is not accessible by Google, their mom, their ex, etc. (No guarantees regarding your ex, however). Previously, we have included such questions in our epic Some Answers to Some Questions You Have Been Asking Us, and in most cases that is still the plan. But some questions were a lot longer or more in-depth and deserved their own place in the sun.

We solicited answers from the whole team, so let’s dive in!

Q.
I gained 70 pounds in 2 years and now i'm afraid I'll never get to have lesbian sex with girls that look like Shane. In one sense I know that's crazy talk, but in another sometimes louder sense it appears to be true. Help. Bring receipts.
A.
Vanessa, Community Editor: Hello, hi, it’s me, a fat queer dyke, here to talk to you about this!

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