Desi parents get a bad rap in America. Across TV and social media, immigrant aunties are typecast as judgmental or conservative, or else passive victims of circumstance, unable to navigate American society as fluently as their children.
At first you don’t really know which of the baby’s behaviors are going to be a Thing and which are just the music playing in the lobby before you sit down for the show. But it seems like most people’s babies have a Thing.
This is one of those incredibly difficult situations where you and your partner are both entitled to your feelings even though those feelings are at direct odds with each other.
My wife, novelist Kristen Arnett, hasn’t had any real contact with her parents for about eight years.
“Suddenly I was pregnant. And then I was a dropout. And then I was a single mother. I had no money or resources outside of my deeply evangelical family, the same people who’d taken me to picket outside of abortion clinics when I was six years old.”
Tig Notaro recently discussed what it was like to come out to her eight-year-old sons. Hearing Tig’s words made me think about my own kid.
I was 22 years old when I donated my eggs anonymously at a fertility clinic in New York City.
I think it’s really admirable that you’re thinking about the ethics of having a kid. A lot of people don’t, and there is value in doing this kind of consideration before having kids. But I think there’s a difference between being aware and letting it keep you from doing something you have always wanted to do.
I grew up around my mom’s queer friends, and I wanted my son to have that, too.
By not acting from a deprivation mindset, I think I’ve created a solid foundation for him when it comes to food.
There have been many times when I’ve said that I’m going to make a stronger effort to take time for myself and that lasts for a couple weeks before I fall right back into the routine of ignoring my needs.
As a parent who is making a concentrated effort to teach my child boundaries when it comes to helping manage burnout, homework doesn’t really fit in with that.
As a parent, I can’t imagine the pain Nex’s family is going through right now.
I’ve been thinking about it almost every day lately.
My son is genuinely one of my favorite people to hang out with.
Admittedly, I’m still trying to figure out how my queerness factors into my mom style.
Giving up control is hard for me as a mom who was a single parent for so many years.
My mother warned me that it goes by fast, but f*ck. The constant back and forth of being the mom of a tween is breaking my heart.
I am a big advocate of parent-teacher conferences, and I always make it a priority to go.
When my partner and I started dating, we talked about having more kids.