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Should We Be Paying Our Friends To Babysit?

They’re doing well financially and love your kid — should you still offer money? Also; tips on giving complements to mascs and butches.

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‘My Partner Is Hurt I’ve Changed My Mind About Having a Baby’

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Kristen Arnett September 25, 2024 15 Comments
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Sa'iyda Shabazz April 30, 2024 26 Comments
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By not acting from a deprivation mindset, I think I’ve created a solid foundation for him when it comes to food.

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Sa'iyda Shabazz March 25, 2024 8 Comments
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As a parent who is making a concentrated effort to teach my child boundaries when it comes to helping manage burnout, homework doesn’t really fit in with that.

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the team February 16, 2024 14 Comments
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My son is genuinely one of my favorite people to hang out with.

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