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Parenting & Family

Queer Mom Chronicles: How Do You Handle School Stuff While Co-Parenting?

I am a big advocate of parent-teacher conferences, and I always make it a priority to go.

Sa'iyda Shabazz December 4, 2023 6 Comments
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Parenting & Family

Queer Mom Chronicles: I Have Baby Fever, but I Don’t Want Another Baby

When my partner and I started dating, we talked about having more kids.

Sa'iyda Shabazz November 20, 2023 3 Comments
1. The author's son as a baby, dressed as a pumpkin. 2. The author's son, dressed as a pirate. 3. The author and her son, dressed as Spider-Man. 4.
Halloween Parenting & Family

Queer Mom Chronicles: Halloween Is Just Another Reminder My Kid Is Growing Up

As a parent, Halloween is always such a mess of a holiday.

Sa'iyda Shabazz October 30, 2023 6 Comments
a photo of the Author Sai with her partner and her young son
Parenting & Family

Queer Mom Chronicles: Why Do I Constantly Have To Explain Our Family Dynamic?

We live in a time when the “traditional” nuclear family isn’t necessarily the default family structure anymore. But beyond that, not all queer families are made the same way either.

Sa'iyda Shabazz October 20, 2023 11 Comments
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Parenting & Family

Be the Queer Aunt You Wish to See in The World

My relationship with my nibling made me understand how important it is to continue living my queer life out loud.

Sa'iyda Shabazz October 9, 2023 6 Comments
two lesbian moms with their young son on the couch, looking at something on a phone
Parenting & Family

Queer Mom Chronicles: Why I Never Put Anyone in My Family “First”

To me, the concept of anyone being “first” in a family feels weird. We all have a hierarchy of needs, right?

Sa'iyda Shabazz October 2, 2023 5 Comments
The author Sai and her son taking a selfie, Sai's son in a suit, and Sai's son in a red jacket and backpack smiling
Parenting & Family

Queer Mom Chronicles: 10 Things I’ve Learned in My 10 Years of Motherhood

9. There will never not be laundry.

Sa'iyda Shabazz September 18, 2023 8 Comments
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Parenting & Family

Queer Mom Chronicles: Tips for Navigating Back-to-School Time for LGBTQ+ Parents

Establishing a good relationship with your child’s school when you’re a queer parent is incredibly important.

Sa'iyda Shabazz September 6, 2023 7 Comments
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Parenting & Family

Queer Mom Chronicles: How Do We Engage With Queer Mom Influencer Culture?

One of my biggest issues with mom-fluencer culture in general is that there is a lack of ability to create meaningful conversations around the issues that plague motherhood.

Sa'iyda Shabazz August 21, 2023 6 Comments
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Parenting & Family

Queer Mom Chronicles: What’s Up with TV for Kids?

I don’t want lesbian polar bears; I want two moms who look like the moms I see on the playground.

Sa'iyda Shabazz August 7, 2023 10 Comments
Parenting & Family

Things They Don’t Tell You About Becoming a Non-Carrying, Queer Mom

Insights from a non-carrying toddler mom, because I don’t think they make a two-moms edition of “What to Expect When You’re Expecting”.

Jálynn Castleman July 24, 2023 26 Comments
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Parenting & Family

Queer Mom Chronicles: How I’m Approaching the “Sex Talk”

“Mom, why do people have s-e-x?” my son asks, stopping me dead in my tracks.

Sa'iyda Shabazz July 20, 2023 9 Comments
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First Person Parenting & Family

What To Expect When Your Friends Are Expecting (as a Childfree Queer)

As my community transforms, I’ve developed a curiosity on how to transmute isolation into connection.

Molly July 9, 2023 48 Comments
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Parenting & Family

Queer Mom Chronicles: School’s Out for Summer

As much as I love it, summer vacation is not quite as relaxing when you’re a working mom.

Sa'iyda Shabazz July 3, 2023 11 Comments
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Parenting & Family

You Need Help: My Sister Loves Me, the Sinner, but Hates the Sin

I’ve been willing to put this aside and accept the love she’s willing to give me. But it’s all come to a head now that my health insurance finally approved my top surgery.

himani June 27, 2023 14 Comments
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Parenting & Family

Queer Mom Chronicles: There’s No Manual for Navigating Co-Parenting

I know I write about our experience as a two mom family, but here’s the thing: My son has a dad. And he has been sleeping on my couch on and off for the last four months.

Sa'iyda Shabazz June 19, 2023 16 Comments
The writer Sai holds a lesbian Pride flag in one photo. Her son wears a t-shirt that reads MY MOMS HAVE THE COOLEST SON IN THE WORLD with a rainbow heart on it. Sai and her son take a selfie with Sai's partner. There's a mint and pink swirl background.
LGBT Pride Parenting & Family

Queer Mom Chronicles: Happy Pride Y’all!

I was able to teach my son the un-whitewashed version of the Stonewall riots, giving power to the black and brown folks that put their bodies on the line so that his mom could be free to love freely.

Sa'iyda Shabazz June 5, 2023 15 Comments
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Parenting & Family

Queer Mom Chronicles: Why Is Bedtime Such a Battle?

If you’re a parent, you know how hard it is to get a kid to go to sleep when they don’t want to. I truly wish I could tell you it gets easier, but I don’t like to lie.

Sa'iyda Shabazz May 22, 2023 9 Comments
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Parenting & Family

Queer Mom Chronicles: When You’re the Only Lesbian Mom on the Playground

There’s a certain amount of risk calculation you have to do when you’re the only queer mom in a group of parents.

Sa'iyda Shabazz May 8, 2023 10 Comments
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Parenting & Family

Queer Mom Chronicles: I Don’t Want To Be a Parenting Influencer

There are plenty of ways to be visible as queer parents without subjecting ourselves to the hate and vitriol of social media.

Sa'iyda Shabazz April 10, 2023 18 Comments
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