“Social skills classes are particularly bad places to learn gender and sexuality lessons because they combine direct instruction with the neurotypical authority of telling us how to act. Socialization groups seem safer, but sometimes, gender and sexuality discrimination still subtly invade them. Where do we go from here? I believe the solution is multi-tiered.”
“It was lasagna night, and as the kitchen got ready to serve dinner, kids checked Facebook at the cyber center, watched cartoon shows with headphones on, and fooled around at the pool table. The things that differentiated this gathering from a high school cafeteria were small: the thin kid wearing a parka inside who came up, bashful, for a full plate of food three times; the kids who wrapped up food in tin foil or took it away with them in to-go containers.”
Autostraddle chatted with Eve Lindley and Ryley Pogensky, two models from “Brothers, Sisters, Sons & Daughters,” about what brought them to the shoot and how it’s keeping them around.
“I hated my body and punished it, and it hated me and punished me back. Is that what happened? That’s the thing about getting sick the way I got sick: nailing it down.”
“Laneia, that was our first official interaction in the world — you seeing a link to my blog on The Planet Boards and wanting to delete it.”
For queer women of color, intersectionality isn’t just a “concept” or a “framework” for theorists to use for mind exercise — it’s a lived experience.
“It’s like you’re so good at your weird, low-cost lifestyle, but you know nothing about the real world.”
She didn’t say “I have suspected this for years and I still love you.” It went more like a Scared Straight kind of thing but instead of scaring me about drugs and a life of crime, she wanted to scare me straight, straight. “Just Say No to Lesbianism” straight.
Ever since I went to a Halloween party at my friend’s church youth group in 6th grade, I’ve been almost inseparable from my Christian identity. But on November 4th, 2012, my heart was all the way down in my toes as I got ready to go to church for the first time as a transgender lesbian.
“I am afraid help will come too late to someone in my life. I am afraid that closets become coffins.”
A look at the stories behind the stories and the humans behind the characters and the numbers behind those stories in everybody’s favorite lezalicious prison dramedy.
“A phrase that often arises in this movement is “ni de aqui, ni de alla,” (neither from here nor there), and it speaks to the ability we seek as queer immigrants to define home as we choose, whether in a geographic sense, within our communities, or a gendered sense, within our bodies.”
The struggles of queer and trans* people are no less important than the struggles of gay people, and if they move forward without us, they are not moving forward at all.
“Her hair is like another person. Today it’s two braids.”
“This is about the first time I ever did mushrooms, and it’s about how being trans* affects everything, even bullshit bourgeoise attempts at pharmacological liberation.”
“Isn’t this what Valentine’s Day had always been to me? A pageant? An opportunity to try on the idea of being in love, being traditional, being a couple you could fit into a envelope.”
Is the closing of Tamms Correctional Center — where even non-violent criminals are locked in a cell for 23 hours a day, deprived of all human contact, for years at a time — a harbinger of things to come?
In which we respond to “Gay Men’s Sexism and Women’s Bodies,” an article by a gay man who noticed his peers “curiously comfortable critiquing and touching women’s bodies at whim.”
“If you’re reading this and are currently in love with a tiny place that hasn’t loved you back yet, I want you to know that this is okay.”
“It wasn’t until I kissed the second girl that even my therapist at the time laughed at me and told me maybe it was time to accept that my sexuality was not as cut-and-dry as I’d always imagined.”