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You Need Help: How Do I Know if I’m Really Attracted to My Partner?
Humans can sometimes be unreliable narrators of our own lives.
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You Need Help: My Partner and I Disagree About Our COVID Risk Reduction Practices
Sometimes, after dealing with an active crisis as a team, it’s the period afterward that can start to pull us apart. There’s more time and space for your individual needs and feelings; it’s not surprising that this is when the resentment can really start to build!
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You Need Help: How Can I Make Long Distance More Bearable?
Long distance will always be challenging; here are the ways you can strengthen the way you navigate those challenges.
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You Need Help: You Should Divorce Your Transphobic Wife
Your wife fell in love with you and built a life with you and you’re a woman. You didn’t become a woman. You didn’t trick her into being queer — her own feelings did that.
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You Need Help: How Do I Stop Bringing Baggage From My Last Relationship Into My New One?
This is where it gets really scary: Growing together requires communication.Â
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You Need Help: Your Wife Doesn’t Want Sex, but There’s Something Deeper Here
You are telling me one thing, which is that your wife and you communicate well and she cares for you, and then I am seeing something different, which is that your needs are continuously deprioritized in the relationship, and that seems to be how things play out when it comes to your wife’s actions.
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You Need Help: I Moved Closer to My Girlfriend but She’s Too Busy for Me
The person who moved shouldn’t be the only person experiencing change.
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You Need Help: What If You Never Want To Move In Together?
“I asked her if there’s a world in which we always live separately but still spend most nights together, and she didn’t say no but she also said she was having a hard time imagining it.”
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You Need Help: Can I Go Through this Heartbreak Again?
In order to work through problems in a relationship, both parties must be present, willing, and able to do the work required. It’s a little like you’re sitting side by side in a rowboat, each holding one oar. When one person does all the rowing, you’re only going to go in circles.
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You Need Help: My Girlfriend Has No Queer Friends, Is That a Problem?
This is very clearly your problem, not your girlfriend’s problem, and resolving it will be your work, not hers.
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You Need Help: I Think My Partner Is Emotionally Cheating On Me
The idea that we must save our intimate, intense feelings only for our partners is a deeply heteronormative one, and I don’t want us to adhere to it.
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You Need Help: Your Partner Won’t Give You Space
She’s isolating you from the things that make you a capable, confident, well-rounded person, and when you adhere to her rules, you’re enabling codependency.
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#PolyamoryProblems: The Way My Partner Engages With Her Other Partner Makes Me Uncomfortable, What Should I Do?
Boundaries are our manifestations of how we deserve to be treated and what we will accept from others.
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#PolyamoryProblems: Opening Your Relationship 101
Welcome to the first installment of #PolyamoryProblems, a new advice column on Autostraddle. There are countless things I wish I had known before I started out, and lucky for you I’m here to tell you the things that will hopefully make your transition into polyamorous relationships much smoother.
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You Need Help: Quarantine Smothered My Sex Drive
If you use this opportunity to sharpen your communication, your dynamic will be stronger (and hotter) on the other side of a crisis.
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You Need Help: Long-Distance Relationships
So far away! Courtney Trouble gets blunt about LDRs.
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You Need Help: Is Love Really a Lie? Should You Even Try?
It’s a hard time to have hope, but friends, don’t give up.
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You Need Help: Grad School Killed Your Sex Life
Instead of thinking about how your sex life is dead, think about how it could be reborn.
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You Need Help: Is It A Fine Bromance?
What do you do when your girlfriend has a secret bromance with a girl you once wanted to romance?
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You Need Help: Your Girlfriend Wants to Date Other People and It’s Breaking Your Heart
Your girlfriend wants an open relationship and you agreed to it, but now you feel terrible all the time. What to do?