Results for: meet up
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How Black Queer and Trans Folks Can Get Involved in the Kink Community
In the hands of Black queer and trans folks, kink can be deeply healing and transformative.
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Sadomasochism & Mental Health: Self-Expression
“When I was diagnosed, and realizing how it affected me outside of the way that I eat, it’s these processes throughout my day or the way that my personality functions. It isn’t that disruptive, but having the framework helped. Finding kink, having the words for it, helped contextualize the sex that I like to have, the friendships that I like to have, the dynamics that I like to have and the relationships in general.”
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Sadomasochism & Mental Health: Boundaries
Kink is something that I can contextualize my life around, around eroticism generally, and that felt so at home in my brain. That I can have a container for a thing, that it is healthy to have a container for things.
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How to Rock Your First BDSM Play Party
How do you know what to do at a play party if you aren’t sure of all the kink etiquette? What if you just want to watch? What do you wear?? Whether you’re a top or bottom, dominant or submissive, switch, voyeur or exhibitionist, here’s the basics of what you need to know to have a great time at your first play party.
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Cuffing Season: Five Tips for Anxious Dominants
Worried you can’t be a good Dominant because you’re too anxious or awkward? Don’t be.
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Impact Play 101: How to Successfully Spank and Slap With Your Very Own Hands
Your hands are your first and best sex toy, and one thing you can do with them is spank people! Hot. Let’s talk about how you can do that in a safe and sexy way!
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Shibari 101: Hogtie
Here’s how to put a few basic shibari ties together so you can hogtie your rope bottom!
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I’m a Submissive Brat and No, That’s Not a Contradiction
In my day-to-day life my brattiness shows up as snark and a tendency to play devil’s advocate. It wasn’t until I entered the BDSM scene five years ago that I learned to express it in new and unexpected ways.
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Bottoms Up: You Are Not My Dom
Somehow, self-identifying as a submissive makes some potential doms think I am their sub.
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Bottoms Up: Kinky Resolutions
As I grow more into the submissive I want to be, I grow to love myself more.
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View From The Top: Is Kink The New Vanilla?
You just have to be honest about what you’re looking for, and keep going after it.
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View From The Top: Desire That Looks Like Mine
The possibility of finding our kink community gave me the courage to take another deep breath and open the door.
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View From The Top: Giving Orders
Giving orders is more than the words coming out of my mouth. It’s the tone of voice I use, the eye contact, the confidence, the ease with which I speak.
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View From The Top: Coming and Crying; Master and Slave
“Master and slave — in consensual, intentional contexts — are the precise words for the cravings I have in my heart and gut to own, control, protect and nurture my partner.”
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View From The Top: It’s Like 10,000 Femme Tops When All You Need Is A Bottom
Before you can find someone who wants what you want, you have to say no to everyone who doesn’t.
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View From The Top: Theory Is Foreplay, Right?
I wanted her. I dreamed about her, daydreamed about her, wrote love notes to her all day long, wrote erotica about our sex life. We weren’t together all that long, but she taught me so much about dominance.