Things I’ve Never Asked My Girlfriend of Three Years About Her Childhood and High School Years

Welcome to Things I've Never Asked! This is a new A+ series in which we ask people we're close to questions we genuinely don't know the answers to! For this first one, I sat down with my girlfriend Kristen Arnett. Because we live together and especially because we started living together just two months before the pandemic made it so that we were truly together all the time, I thought I wouldn't have enough questions to ask, but oh wow was I wrong! What I thought would be a short-ish interview turned into a two-hour conversation in which I learned so much I didn't know about Kristen! In the first half, we talked about childhood, bodies, libraries, Barbies, porn, dial-up internet chat rooms, secret high school girlfriends, men's cargo pants ...

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Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya is the managing editor of Autostraddle and a lesbian writer of essays, short stories, and pop culture criticism living in Orlando. She is the assistant managing editor of TriQuarterly, and her short stories appear or are forthcoming in McSweeney's Quarterly Concern, Joyland, Catapult, The Offing, and more. Some of her pop culture writing can be found at The A.V. Club, Vulture, The Cut, and others. You can follow her on Twitter or Instagram and learn more about her work on her website.

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