Search polyamory and you’ll see the term partnered with words like “sexual revolution” and “on the rise” in several news pieces on the subject. Surely, there’s more to non-monogamy than sex, or the rebellion of joining a fad? What could it take to make being open/ polyamorous/ non-monogamous work? Eleven books and the internet’s idea of a “sexual revolution” bookshelf later, I present to you a list of some major titles relevant to queer women.
Cheating is a form of escape from our current situation; it allows us to momentarily be with someone else, maybe even be someone else, for a night. Honesty has consequences. Cheating, if we don’t get caught, does not.
“Polyamory and queerness are pretty much inseparable for me in practice.”
Everyone gets jealous. It’s how you handle it that counts.
Here’s how to fly your consensually non-monogamous, polyamorous, consensually open relationship or whatever else flag in your dating profile so you get the best possible interactions from it.
More people than ever are in non-monogamous relationships, and new research sheds light on what factors make people — and specifically queer people — more likely to be into them.
Here’s how a 23 year old polyam queer femme living in Long Beach, CA, in a long-term relationship does poly.
How a single 31-year old pansexual non-monogamous Black woman living in Los Angeles is starting to explore poly.
“I have a relationship to myself first. If that relationship isn’t solid and healthy I’m not good with anyone.”
How a 23-year-old bisexual polyamorous nonbinary femme xicanx in two very loving relationships does poly.
Here’s how a 23-year-old mixed race Asian genderqueer polyamorous bisexual femme who just moved to Brooklyn does poly.
How a a 28-year-old white genderfluid bisexual in recovery from an eating disorder/anxiety/depression does polyamory.
Here’s how a 28-year-old Arab-American queer demisexual cis woman living in the urban Midwest does ethical non-monogamy.
How a a 28-year-old Chicana pansexual cis woman living in the Midwest, working in the sex industry, and in a long-term queer platonic relationship does poly.
How a newly-into-ladies 32-year-old multiracial cis queer lady in a big blue city in the deep red American South does poly.
“I view polyamory as a structure that’s helpful in me decolonizing my love life and the way I view relationships. Having complete ownership of everything within the borders of my skin, and doing what I desire with it and with whom, is an incredible “fuck you” to the systems of oppression I seek to dismantle (and a fun one!).”
“Family and friends tend to recognize her and her boyfriend and pretend that I don’t exist, mostly because they have been together longer and queer relationships are not respected or recognized.”
Here’s how a 23-year-old native and Jewish queer trans woman with Cerebral Palsy living in Baltimore and dating a few people does poly.
“You can just NOT LIE.”
Here’s how a single 20-year-old Latina queer polyamorous femme who works as a nonprofit employee and fetish model does poly.