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Here’s how a 33-year-old queer, polyamorous, white, trans woman living in Chicago who’s married and has a long-term girlfriend does poly.
I chatted with Lyn this week about the book, youth activism, and intergenerational activism. She had a lot of amazing things to say, spoiler alert.
“Being Queer is not about who you’re with, it’s about who you are.”
“Not leaning into change is a lot like staring at your house while it’s on fire.”
“Feminism is about unlocking the bonds of separation. Seeing everyone as equals and raising up those who have been most oppressed by patriarchy. Tarot and oracle decks support this work because they give us a tool to connect to our atomic memory. A memory that knows the equality of all beings.”
Wilson-Yang deftly weaves and unweaves the threads of narrative tropes that have come to dominate the telling of the stories of trans women, lesbians, migrants, and Chinese North Americans.
Ever wondered what technology it takes to start a YouTube channel? Kaylah Cupcake, a popular wellness YouTuber, has some answers.
“It really was an honor to be able to stand on that stage and, hopefully, help educate the country a little bit more about transgender equality. More than anything else, I wanted to reinforce the simple fact that transgender people are people, who hurt when they are mocked, who hurt when they are discriminated against, and who want to be treated with dignity and fairness.”
How is it possible that a queer woman who came in second place on NBC’s mega-smash-hit The Voice could, three years later, still be unknown? The short answer is that before Michelle Chamuel could fully tell the world who she is, she had to figure it out herself.
“As a queer woman, I personally felt strongly connected to Cleo’s feelings about donning men’s clothes. To me she is someone who comes to prefer presenting as male or agender, and finds strength and acceptance through that. The 13-year-old version of me yearned for heroines like Cleo.”
“Your shit is worth working out. You get to have a future.”
“Gender self-determination is vital and I can feel great about who I am when I am at home. But I live a life where I engage with other people and doing what feels good for me is a lot more challenging when I step outside the door. With pronouns specifically, it’s hard not to feel like you are dependent on others to ‘validate’ your gender, or rather, it’s hard not to feel like your gender is not valid when people use the wrong pronoun.”
“So often I’ve tried to explain figure skating to my friends or family and I never felt like they got it… But it was as if I was always describing something too huge to put in to words. So I’m excited to be able to show it all, share everything that I’ve wanted to say but couldn’t find the words for.”
ChaosLife is a hilarious, beautifully drawn, super well-written comic that touches on so many things that queer people (and cat owners) experience on a daily basis. I love this comic and I know you will too!
Julien Baker’s artistry is about making the best out of nothing — making light out of the darkest times, carving faith out of doubt, building connections with strangers.
“I fire off a series of tweets to Governor Pat McCrory, as well as the North Carolina Values Coalition and some public supporters of the bill. The few replies I get make it clear that my arguments have zero impact. This issue will consume my consciousness for the following few days.”
“I feel like every single trans woman of color I know is gorgeous and beautiful and so knowing that I’m one of them, that I’m a part of that community makes me feel infinitely more beautiful than I’ve ever felt in my life.”
“My self love is my favorite thing about myself right now. Seeing my sometimes dry, sometimes crusty-eyed face first thing in the morning and automatically thinking, “Damn, you’re beautiful” is a joy I never thought I would experience.”
“I’ve been waking up just as the sun rises lately, and it allows me to feel like I have a life outside of my daily commitments. This is when I can check in with myself.”