“More than gender, Chu is writing about desire. She might argue they’re the same thing, and she is convincing, but whether or not you agree with her, this exploration of desire is worth considering.”
“Sometimes, when we allow ourselves to open a door, to open a possibility, the weight of that possibility and that choice is damn heavy – and overwhelming.”
If I could tell everyone how to differentiate between gender expression feels and gender feels, I’d be Sovereign Ruler of Gender and maybe things would be easier, but probably also a lot less fun.
What Shapeshifters has done here is made binders where the point of them goes beyond the normal utilitarian point of a binder. And honestly? We deserve that!
“I was unwilling to buy a binder. It seemed like a declaration, the kind I was nowhere near ready to make yet. But for that winter, I had the bag.”
I looked less and less like my mother— the image of womanhood I grew up with — and I was scared. Was she disappointed that I wasn’t like her? Did my femininity disappoint her? At the same time, I worried about being too masculine: people would know I wasn’t straight. I was angry: my mother taught me to be proud of who I was, but what if who I was becoming wasn’t good enough?
Why push each other down when we all need some heavy lifting?
“A lot of the narrative about gender questioning at large is about tragedy, about what we lose. I encourage you (even though I know it’s challenging) to think about your gender from a different angle. What makes you feel affirmed?”
“There are so many baby queers who depend on us to give them representation,” they said. “There’s so much in this world telling you to be something different and that’s so detrimental. I’d rather have kids see something and go, ‘It’s okay to be me.'”
These days, I constantly crave queer ass stories about queer ass characters. Luckily for us all, there are some incredible indie game creators who are here to give the people what we want: gays!
“Lingerie is the clothing that most relates to our intimate feelings about our bodies — it can reflect the way we see sensuality and sexuality, and also have the ability to transform our relationship with our bodies.”
Watch out, 2016! Hillary’s on the rise and so are you – straight through some glass!
If they are feeling hurt by people who don’t want to use their pronouns or just by a long day of having to gender in the world, listen to them and ask how you can help ease the stress.
These gender non-conforming clothes are heckin’ cute, kitten wedding?? kinda!, picnic destinations, dogs, bathing suits, Gilda Radner, this feminist bookstore, perfume, and so much more!
There’s a whole lot of patriarchy left to shatter in this cruel world, including at every level of our government. And we need people to crash through glass ceilings in politics who aren’t just straight women.
Are your parents spies? Also: coincidences, lots of important women who changed the dang universe, Kesha, embryos, Kristen Stewart’s makeup situation can be yours, genderqueer and pregnant, skydiving quidditch and so much more!
“Prince — the musician, the icon, the gender-bending dreamboat — taught me that the best and only thing I can be is exactly whatever I am. It doesn’t have to make sense to anyone else as long as it keeps me alive and sparkling.”
Here are three completely undeniable and incredibly depressing facts about women, executive political power, and glass ceilings — and cliffs! — around the world.
Voting for women isn’t all it takes to reach gender parity in politics. Changing our political system from the bottom-up will go a lot further.
Here are some queer, feminist, and/or gender theorists worth reading when you finally get through “Gender Trouble.”
People look at babies and read: pink = girl, blue = boy, other colors and no hairbow? Just ask! Or assume. “Oh what long eyelashes on your beautiful little girl!” Follow me into this cultural critique game and be prepared to get a little uncomfortable.