If you want to live in a reality show, go ahead and sow chaos, but if you’d rather have a romcom, you have to let go.

The team digs into questions about a partner’s conservative family, dealing with a crush on a new friend, figuring out what to wear for your wedding (!!!), and more!

I do wonder if it was all a bit too gay too soon for JoJo to win. It’s pretty incredible that despite knowing how many people would be up in arms about a same-sex pairing, no-one on the show ever shied away from foregrounding it at every given opportunity, which is a win in itself.

Julia Nunes has been self-producing her music for almost ten years, and her newest album “Ughwow” is a drastic change from her old sound in the best way possible. We talk about the work of being a human and how that’s showing up in her creative work lately.

“Other people built a gender for me and trusted that I would defend what they built. But what I was handed never made sense.”

“Take My Wife” Season 2 is now available on iTunes and surprise, we loved it!

We talked to One Day at a Time writers, Becky Mann and Michelle Badillo, about gay representation on TV, how Autostraddle came to be in the script, their queer TV roots, what kind of LGBT stories are missing from TV and what’s in store for Elena in a potential next season.

2016 was the best of times and the worst of times. JK, it was the absolute worst of times. A lot of queer women died on TV. But a lot of them kissed and made googly eyes at each other too.

“I’m gonna support the SHIT outta you.” (Also, a Lilith Flair playlist!)

“But we also believe in something called citizenship citizenship, a word at the very heart of our founding, a word at the very essence of our democracy, the idea that this country only works when we accept certain obligations to one another and to future generations.”

The queerness of Pacino’s filmography is a reminder. While the media and your worst uncle claim the newness of queer and trans people, the truth is we have always been here. This cinema belongs to us as much as it does any straight film bro.

In 2013, Sue Kerr published her first memorial post for a lost trans life to her blog Pittsburgh Lesbian Correspondents, which has been running since 2005. More than a decade later, when the mainstream media failed to meaningfully cover the death of Nex Benedict, she once again used her blog as a vital community resource.

Going to 7 queer bars in one day? What could possibly go wrong!

“And the truth is, this is what I’ll say, if people don’t show up for Twenties, it will go away.”

Jumpsuits at weddings, overalls, office wear, thrifting and tailoring and more! The Autostraddle team talks FASHION, specifically your fashion, in this special themed A+ Advice Box!

“I saw how they reacted to Max and I was like, ‘ohh, I’m gonna transition and I’m gonna be shunned from this community that I’ve longed for for 18 years, I’m gonna lose my community if I transition.'”

I don’t want to put any songs on my breakup playlist that any of my exes have used, or are using, to woo their new girlfriends.

“What do we in want from and for Lisa in 2019? Justice for him, or peace of mind for us? The desire to reach back in time and pull him into our present is natural because we – especially trans people – want to see her character restored in dignity, thus preserving our own dignity.”

How do you make a gif? I need a gif of Shane saying “where do you LIVE Mark??” Do you know the scene Im talking about?

Here’s how we handle TV that lets us down, the shows we think successfully turned it around, and our ultimate dealbreakers.