The Basics





About Me

About Me

I like stuff? I hate these things, haha. Um. Let’s see: customer consultant for an educational tech software company, trying to stay creative and politically active in my free time, huuuge geek of the almost every variety, live-in polyfidelitous with my partner of 16 years and my metamour who’s been with us for 6. Consuming all the media all the time.


Check All That Apply

Bisexual, Queer, Trans, Genderqueer, Non-binary, Sexually Fluid


faith is not enough/ sex is not enough/ drugs are not enough/ love, love




Looking For

Queer Friends in my Area, Queer Friends on the Internet, Business Contacts

Relationship Status

In a Relationship, Married, Non-Monogamous Relationship


creativity, friendliness, geekery (if you don't think that's a virtue you're wrong).


crippling self-doubt?, internet addiction, anything starch-related

Are You Out To Your....

Member(s) of Immediate Family, Members(s) of Extended Family, Close Friends, All Friends, It's Complicated

What I Like

Favorite Books

Neverwhere, Good Omens, Foxfire, A Wizard of Earthsea, Tamsin, Fahrenheit 451, The Illustrated Man, The Last Unicorn, Watership Down, The Dark Is Rising Sequence (Over Sea Under Stone, The Dark Is Rising, Greenwitch, The Grey King, Silver on the Tree), The Dragonriders of Pern books, Harry Potter etc, the Xanth series, the Mode series, Ender’s Game series, The Hunger Games trilogy, the Newford stories, the Weetzie Bat books, etc etc etc.

Favorite Queer Books

Empress of the World, half of Francesca Lia Block’s bibliography, Foxfire: Confessions of a Girl Gang, Mysterious Skin, Tipping the Velvet, Strangers in Paradise, How Loathsome, Ruby Coral Carnelian, The Devil’s Mixtape…more I’ll think of later.

Favorite Movies

The Crow, Velvet Goldmine, Labyrinth, Love Actually, Empire Records, Times Square, The Social Network, The Dark Crystal, Donnie Darko, etc.

Favorite Documentaries

The Cove, The Corporation, Sicko, Food Inc., This Film Is Not Yet Rated, An Inconvenient Truth, Paris is Burning, The September Issue, Mad Hot Ballroom, Bowling for Columbine, probably about a million others

Favorite TV Shows

Doctor Who, Merlin, White Collar, Glee, Sherlock, Supernatural, Elementary, Game of Thrones, Sailor Moon, Revolutionary Girl Utena,

Favorite Music

EVERYTHING (I’ll probably narrow that down later).

Favorite Sandwich

This one undescribable veggie thing with cucumber and avocado and sprouts and cream cheese.

Favorite Thing to Autostraddle


Favorite Quotes

Go to the edge of the cliff and jump off. Build your wings on the way down.
-Ray Bradbury

here is the deepest secret nobody knows
(here is the root of the root and the bud of the bud
and the sky of the sky of a tree called life;which grows
higher than soul can hope or mind can hide)
and this is the wonder that’s keeping the stars apart

i carry your heart(i carry it in my heart)
-ee cummings

I thought that a man can be an enemy of other men, of the differing moments of other men, but not of a country: not of fireflies, words, gardens, streams of water, sunsets.
-Jorge Luis Borge

Memory will rust and erode into lists of all that you gave me:
a blanket, some matches, this pain in my chest,
the best parts of Lonely, duct-tape and soldered wires,
new words for old desires,
and every birthday card I threw away.
-The Weakerthans

I’ve been making a list of the things they don’t teach you at school. They don’t teach you how to love somebody. They don’t teach you how to be famous. They don’t teach you how to be rich or how to be poor. They don’t teach you how to walk away from someone you don’t love any longer. They don’t teach you how to know what’s going on in someone else’s mind. They don’t teach you what to say to someone who’s dying. They don’t teach you anything worth knowing.
-Neil Gaiman

Favorite Thing on

I’m just here for the articles, I swear!

Um. All of it?

Favorite Writers

in no order whatsoever, Neil Gaiman, Terry Pratchett, Anne McCaffrey, Susanne Collins, Richard Adams, Isaac Asimov, Joyce Carol Oates, Katherine Kurtz, Susan Cooper, Orson Scott Card, (yes I know he’s a giant homophobe SIGH), Charles DeLint, FLB, Ray Bradbury, Ursula LeGuin, Peter Beagle, Piers Anthony