The Basics




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San Jose

About Me

About Me

I’m Kayla, a thicc, stemme identifying, pansexual mulatto woman that’s here to take up space in the queer community! I’m a writer, traveler, scuba diver, and serious color-er…it’s a meditation like diving and writing and being in nature or exploring. A few summer ago I was a volunteer teacher in a Masai village in Kenya. The experience eventually led to a backpacking stint in Australia that helped me rediscover myself. After that I became an ESL teacher in South Korea, which is where I’m at now. I self-published a book called Letters From Wanderland while I’ve been here; it’s a collection of handwritten letters written for my loved ones from home and abroad. I’m going back to California in September if the US hasn’t been set on fire by then. They say I’m a jack of all trades but a master of none…except for writing…and questioning why we’re all here. You can call me Kay

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Looking For

Queer Friends in my Area, Queer Friends on the Internet, Business Contacts

Relationship Status

Single, It's Complicated

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What I Like

Favorite Books

Oh, the Places You’ll Go; Dr. Seuss; Elephant and Piggie series; Memoirs of an Imaginary Friend; Perfect Match; The Storyteller; Small Great Things; The Things They Carried; The Essential Rumi; The Collected Poems of Langston Hughes; Little Princes; The Complete Tales of Edgar Allan Poe; Feeling Good; The Power of Now; A New Earth; Women who Run with the Wolves; Americanah; Citizen: An American Lyric; On Writing: A Memoir of the Craft

Favorite Queer Books

Call It Wonder: an odyssey of love, sex, spirit and travel; Sing You Home; Stone Butch Blues

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Favorite Quotes

I have no use for a life lived for tomorrow. I would so much rather be lost, and walking today, than found and chained tight to a future I don’t believe in.

Wherever you are, be all there.