The Basics




Buffalo, NY

About Me

About Me

I spend a lot of time thinking about how I’d definitely break my no-marriage vows for Buffy Summers, and how to tell people about my fucking awkward mishaps without sounding contrived. (Sidenote: I just realized that “awkward fucking mishaps” and “fucking awkward mishaps” are not necessarily the same thing.)

Also, sometimes I space out thinking about how much I love cats.

(Full disclosure: I copy/pasted that from my OKC. Which I will almost certainly update again sooner than I will this.)

Check All That Apply

Queer, Sexually Fluid, "Label-Free", Other







Looking For

Queer Friends in my Area, Queer Friends on the Internet, Queer Friends to Make Out With, A Girlfriend, Business Contacts

Relationship Status

Single, Sleeping Around, It's Complicated


Cat whisperer and cheese connoisseur. Plus I am freaking hilarious.


Binge watching, over-analyzing, sex on the first date.

Are You Out To Your....

Member(s) of Immediate Family, Members(s) of Extended Family, Close Friends, All Friends, School/Work, Everybody

What I Like

Favorite Books

Fun Home, The Color Purple, Passing, Stone Butch Blues, Anne of Green Gables novels, The Scarlet Letter, The Handmaid’s Tale

Favorite Queer Books

I’m 110% positive that all of my favorite books are already queer. Or at the very least, I can queer them with relative ease.

Favorite Movies

Movies: Stardust, Saved!, But I’m a Cheerleader!, Les Miserables, St. Trinian’s, D.E.B.S., Jeux d’Enfants (Love Me If You Dare), Penelope, Fur (An Imaginary Portrait of Diane Arbus), Secretary, American History X, Dirty Girl, Bound, Hysteria, Dark Shadows.

I have a secret embarrassing love of romance narratives that do not end in torment.

Favorite Documentaries

For the Bible Tells Me So, The Line, Bullied, Fagbug, Blackfish

Favorite TV Shows

Buffy the Vampire Slayer. Hands down favorite. Escapist crime procedurals. (Castle, Bones, Rizzoli & Isles, even though UGH! queerbaiting.)

Favorite Music

Florence + the Machine, Foxes, Bon Iver, Cat Power, Niki and the Dove, Marina and the Diamonds, M83, MGMT, Robyn, Frou Frou, Chvrches, Diplo, Yellow Claw, Pendulum, Metric, Tegan and Sara.

Favorite Sandwich

I like paninis.

Favorite Thing to Autostraddle


Favorite Quotes

…Our survival demands that we contribute all our strength to the destruction the class of women within which men appropriate women. This can be accomplished only by the destruction of heterosexuality as a social system which is based on the oppression of women by men and which produces the doctrine of the difference between the sexes to justify this oppression.
-Monique Wittig

When you’re in love you never really know whether your elation comes from the qualities of the one you love, or if it attributes them to her; whether the light which surrounds her like a halo comes from you, from her, or from the meeting of your sparks.
-Natalie Clifford Barney

It is better to be hated for what you are than to be loved for something you are not.
-Andre Gide

Let’s face it. We’re undone by each other. And if we’re not, we’re missing something. If this seems so clearly the case with grief, it is only because it was already the case with desire. One does not always stay intact. It may be that one wants to, or does, but it may also be that despite one’s best efforts, one is undone, in the face of the other, by the touch, by the scent, by the feel, by the prospect of the touch, by the memory of the feel.
-Judith Butler

Dream on it. Let your mind take you to places you would like to go, and then think about it and plan it and celebrate the possibilities. And don’t listen to anyone who doesn’t know how to dream.
-Liza Minnelli

Society honors its living conformists and its dead troublemakers.
-Mignon McLaughlin

I have never let my schooling interfere with my education.
-Mark Twain

Looking back, I have this to regret, that too often when I loved, I did not say so.
-David Grayson

Favorite Thing on Autostraddle.com

TV recaps.

Favorite Writers

Emi Koyama, Judith Butler, Monique Wittig, Gayle Rubin, Luce Irigaray, Susan Bordo, Natalie Clifford Barney, Patricia Hill Collins, Kimberle Crenshaw