The Basics





About Me

About Me

Honest, forthright, don’t BS or pussy-foot (get it??) around. I am a “what you see is what you get” person, but am an introvert by nature so I don’t show things easily to strangers.

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Lesbian, Queer, Genderqueer


Agnostic but I like to think I'm open-minded (just please no fanatics)

Looking For

Queer Friends on the Internet, Queer Friends to Make Out With, A Girlfriend

Relationship Status



honesty, kindness, helpfulness


introversion, anxiety

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What I Like

Favorite Books

In Cold Blood, The Devil in the White City, The Martian Chronicles, The Dragonbone Chair, The Stand, From Hell, Skeletons on the Zahara, Great Tales of Terror and the Supernatural, Our Times: an Illustrated History of the 20th century, Night, The Liar’s Club, Ragtime, For the Time Being, The Almost Moon, Free at Last, The Places in Between, The Lovely Bones

Favorite Queer Books

The Secret Diaries of Miss Anne Lister, Fun Home, Oranges are Not the Only Fruit, Bastard Out of Carolina, The Color Purple, Stone Butch Blues

Favorite Movies

Citizen Kane, The Third Man, The Magnificent Ambersons, American Beauty, The Sound of Music, Magnolia, Godfather series, A Clockwork Orange, 2001, The Lord of the Rings, Silence of the Lambs, Harold and Maude, Carol,

Favorite Documentaries

No End in Sight, The Jinx, An Inconvenient Truth, Jesus Camp, Grey Gardens, Grizzly Man, The Celluloid Closet, Paris is Burning, Up, Marlene, The Brandon Teena Story, A Personal Journey with Martin Scorsese Through American Movies, Dear Mr. Watterson

Favorite TV Shows

The Simpsons, Game of Thrones, Doctor Who, Family Guy, Vice

Favorite Music

The Mountain Goats, The Beatles, Mason Jennings, Ryan Adams, Rufus Wainwright, Indigo Girls, Ani DiFranco, Amy Ray, The Decemberists, Gillian Welch, Eels, Bruce Springsteen, Xtc, Patty Griffin, Big Star, early Elton John, The Tallest Man on Earth, Joni Mitchell, Judee Still, Brandi Carlile, KT Tunstall, Erin McKeown, Oscar Peterson, Frank Sinatra, Cheryl Wheeler, Rival Sons, Nirvana, Foo Fighters, Death From Above 1979, Queen, Chris Pureka, etc etc etc

Favorite Sandwich


Favorite Thing to Autostraddle

NSFW Sundays!

Favorite Quotes

“Even as the stone of the fruit must break,that its heart may stand in the sun, so must you know pain. And could you keep your heart in wonder at the daily miracles of your life, your pain would not seem less wondrous than your joy; And you would accept the seasons of your heart, even as you have always accepted the seasons that pass over your fields. And you would watch with serenity through the winters of your grief. ” – Kahlil Gibran

“I have never wished to cater to the crowd: for what I know they do not approve, and what they approve I do not know.” – Epicurus

“There’s this feeling when that happens. It is terrible, but the dread and anticipation and all that stuff goes away. It’s like going through a bottleneck. It’s like, “Well, it sucks to be in the bottleneck, but on the other side of this, there’s quiet.” Not everybody relates to pain, but if you can watch other people playacting it, you can absorb some of that vibe. It’s like watching horror movies—you want to have the experience, but in a safe environment.” – John Darnielle

Favorite Thing on

Playlists, NSFW Sundays, geekery, fashion, society/culture, all of it?

Favorite Writers

Truman Capote, George R.R. Martin, Alice Sebold, Mary Karr, Stephen King