A reader asked for some wedding looks for a person with an androgynous/femme aesthetic that they could wear to a straight family member’s wedding and I immediately asked to make a style guide because getting fancy for grandma while still feeling like myself is one of my favorite things to do.

“If nothing else, what I can offer you is the ability to recreate the looks I’ve found through the power of the Internet and its unlimited shopping cart. And if you want to lie and tell people your outfit’s from Value Village to gain queer credibility, I’m not looking.”