The Basics



About Me


Detroit, MI

About Me

I built this treehouse

Cheryl Strayed once called my writing “crushingly beautiful”


Check All That Apply

Lesbian, Queer







Relationship Status

Married, Non-Monogamous Relationship

What I Like

Favorite Books

Two Or Three Things I Know For Sure, Inferno, Stephen Dunn: New and Collected Poems, On the Road, Savage Inequalities, Bad Behavior, Self-Help, Anagrams, Because They Wanted To, The Year of Magical Thinking, Soft Maniacs, A Home at the End of the World, Freedom, Where I’m Calling From, The Safety of Objects, Bastard Out of Carolina, Veronica, A Blind Man Could See How Much I Love You, Prep, Cowboys are My Weakness, The Ice Storm, No One Belongs Here More Than You, My Misspent Youth, The Perks of Being a Wallflower, The Wind-Up Bird Chronicles, Appetites

Favorite Queer Books

Naked, Tipping the Velvet, Sorry Tree, Annie on my Mind, Two or Three Things I Know For Sure, Juliet Takes a Breath, The Miseducation of Cameron Post

Favorite Documentaries

This Film is Not Yet Rated, Roger & Me, Wal-Mart: The High Cost of Low Prices, Food Inc, The Carter Documentary, Grey Gardens, Joan Rivers: A Piece of Work

Favorite TV Shows

Six Feet Under, The Office, Skins, My So-Called Life, Shameless, Battlestar Galactica, Buffy the Vampire Slayer, Friday Night Lights, The Wire, Orange is the New Black

Favorite Music

julia nunes, tegan and sara

Favorite Sandwich

grilled cheese

Favorite Thing on Autostraddle.com

100 Photos of Shane
Laneia’s Team Pick: These Cashews

Favorite Writers

Stephen Dunn, Lorrie Moore, Mary Gaitskill, Eileen Myles, Joan Didion, AM Homes, Dorothy Allison, Rebecca Solnit, Amy Bloom, Jack Spicer, Jonathan Franzen, Pam Houston, Tao Lin, Jack Kerouac, Emily Gould, Laneia, Maggie Nelson, Caity Weaver