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About Me


Detroit, MI

About Me

I’m a freelance journalist, blogger, fictionist, copywriter, video-maker and aspiring cyber-performance artist who grew up in Michigan, went crazy in New York, and now lives in the San Francisco Bay Area. My writing has appeared in eight books including “The Bigger the Better the Tighter the Sweater: 21 Funny Women on Beauty, Body Image, and Other Hazards of Being Female” and “The Best American Erotica 2007,” in magazines including Marie Claire, GO!, Interlude, College Bound and Curve, and all over the web including Jezebel, Nerve, OurChart, Emily Books, The L Word Online and Suspect Thoughts.
In addition to editing Autostraddle videos like “Julie & Brandy In Your Box Office” and the “Haviland & Riese Vlogs,” I’ve produced videos for Wingspan Pictures, Tello and Broadway World and starred in Showtime’s online video series “Lezberado.”
I’ve appeared live in front of people saying important things at Yale, The University of Chicago, New York University, BlogHer, The Museum of Sex and The KGB Reading Series, among others.
2-D situations include GO Magazine’s 100 Women We Love 2010 and 2011, VUE Weekly, Curvy Awards for Best Blogger and Best Lesbian Website, 2008 Hottest Bloggers Calendar, 2 Lezzie Awards for Best Personal Blog, etc.
Cheryl Strayed once called my writing “crushingly beautiful.” So.

Check All That Apply

Lesbian, Queer







Relationship Status

Married, Non-Monogamous Relationship

What I Like

Favorite Books

Two Or Three Things I Know For Sure, Inferno, Stephen Dunn: New and Collected Poems, On the Road, Savage Inequalities, Bad Behavior, Self-Help, Anagrams, Because They Wanted To, The Year of Magical Thinking, Soft Maniacs, A Home at the End of the World, Freedom, Where I’m Calling From, The Safety of Objects, Bastard Out of Carolina, Veronica, A Blind Man Could See How Much I Love You, Prep, Cowboys are My Weakness, The Ice Storm, No One Belongs Here More Than You, Whores & Other Feminists, Schoolgirls: Young Women, Self-Esteem and the Confidence Gap, A Heartbreaking Work of Staggering Genius, My Misspent Youth, The Perks of Being a Wallflower, The Wind-Up Bird Chronicles, Appetites

Favorite Queer Books

Naked, Tipping the Velvet, Sorry Tree, Annie on my Mind, Two or Three Things I Know For Sure

Favorite Documentaries

This Film is Not Yet Rated, Roger & Me, Wal-Mart: The High Cost of Low Prices, Food Inc, The Carter Documentary, We Live in Public, Grey Gardens, Joan Rivers: A Piece of Work, For the Bible Tells Me So, 8: The Mormon Proposition

Favorite TV Shows

The Wire, Six Feet Under, The Office, Skins, My So-Called Life, Lost, Battlestar Galactica, Buffy the Vampire Slayer, Friday Night Lights

Favorite Music

julia nunes, tegan and sara

Favorite Sandwich

grilled cheese

Favorite Thing on Autostraddle.com

100 Photos of Shane
Laneia’s Team Pick: These Cashews

Favorite Writers

Stephen Dunn, Lorrie Moore, Mary Gaitskill, Eileen Myles, Joan Didion, AM Homes, Dorothy Allison, Amy Bloom, Jack Spicer, Jonathan Franzen, Pam Houston, Tao Lin, Jack Kerouac, Emily Gould, Laneia