Today’s NY Mag Sex Diary is “Epic,” Queer, In An Open Relationship

New York Magazine‘s Sex Diaries, which we have discussed at length in the past, are consistently one of the magazine’s most controversial and widely read features. Sometimes it gets a little gay, and this week’s “The Queer San Francisco Woman Having Group Sex in New York” was described by editor Rachel Kramer Bussel as “epic.”  See for yourself at New York Magazine:

“I arrive home from a literary event to find twenty partially clothed friends in my apartment. It’s a mini bon-voyage orgy thrown by my partner, S. In two days, we fly to New York. This journey back to his hometown is an annual ritual since we moved to San Francisco. A mix of business and pleasure, I’ll be reading from my novel at a bookstore and wedging in as many dates with New York lovers as possible.”

Happy Tuesday!!!

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  1. Here’s my attempt at a diary:

    9.03 pm – this is kinda hot.

    9.05 pm – damn, look at all this awesome sex this woman is having while I sit at home alone with a bowl of dal makhani.

    9.06 pm – actually, this piece feels a little contrived. Is this for real?

    9.08 pm – hmm, I wonder if that bit about how she masturbates 4 times in 2.5 hrs in between this sexfest is going to reinforce negative stereotypes that poly people are basically just really horny??

    9.10 pm – WHYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY did I read the comments. Whyyyyyy.

    Internet rule #1: unless it’s AS, for the love of all that is good, do not read the comments.

  2. I’m starting to think sex is a zero sum game. Like, there’s only so much sex to go around and the reason I’m not having any is because people like this are having more than their fair share.

    It’s either that or I’m just not the kind of girl people want to sleep with. Since that clearly cannot be the case, that can only mean sex is a giant cosmic balancing act.

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