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Lily’s College Lesbianage #15: Post Grad Limbo Is Where I Wanna Be

“It is still quite strange to not be in school anymore and I do have to keep reminding myself that it is OK to take some time off. That I do not have to start my “career” right this second. That as long as I am lucky enough to provide food, water, and shelter for myself, I will be ok.”

By Lily| December 6, 2013 | 41 Comments
College

Lily’s College Lesbianage #14: Libraries, Gay Marriage and Therapy

Unaccomplished Goal For Summer #4: Write a screenplay about a 20 year-old girl who realizes that her life long dream of becoming a child/teen star will never be realized. Call it “That’s Not So Raven”.

By Lily| August 5, 2011 | 72 Comments
College

Lily’s College Lesbianage #13: I Have Some Issues With Growing Up

“Here is the thing about my tonsil doctor: He doubles as a plastic surgeon because I am from Palm Beach and that’s just how we roll down there.”

By Lily| June 17, 2011 | 37 Comments
College

Lily’s College Lesbianage #12: Quarter-Life Crisis and Red Carpet Ricky Martin

Lily has done a lot since the last time she wrote this article: she turned 20, changed her major, pretended to be Mariah Carey, attended the red carpet of the GLAAD Media Awards, and formed a Mandy Moore cover-band (kind-of).

By Lily| April 13, 2011 | 46 Comments
College

Lily’s College Lesbianage #11: Life Plans, Cuddling – A Jedi Craves Not These Things

“Also, my brother has a haircut that makes him look like a lesbian. He looks like a lesbian who looks like Justin Bieber. It’s pretty exciting.”

By Lily| January 12, 2011 | 49 Comments
College Society + Culture

Lily’s College Lesbianage #10: Words and Music Videos

Lily is back from an extremely long bout of procrastination to talk about being gay at the doctors, her attempt to become a perfect Barnard woman, and her love of Jennifer Lopez.

By Lily| October 27, 2010 | 73 Comments
College Society + Culture

Lily’s College Lesbianage #9: Back To School!

Lily is back on campus for another year of Lily’s College Lesbianage. So far she’s only had one almost-panic attack which is 700% less than last year.

By Lily| September 1, 2010 | 16 Comments
College Society + Culture

Lily’s College Lesbianage #8: Can’t Believe Freshman Year Went By So Fast

Lily’s Freshman year of college has come to an end and although she didn’t treat academics with the same hard work and intensity as she did in high school, she did manage to learn a few things about time, pop music, and girls.

By Lily| May 27, 2010 | 15 Comments
College Society + Culture

Lily’s College Lesbianage #7: Smart Girls, Spice Girls & Girl-Dates to School Dances

This week in lesbianage, Lily celebrates a dead composer’s birthday while wondering why she can’t major in “being Whitney Houston”…

By Lily| March 12, 2010 | 38 Comments
College

Lily’s College Lesbianage #6: Lesbians Are Scary

When the Beastie Boys sang “college girls are easy,” I don’t think they’d ever gone into a lesbian bar…. with me.

By Lily| February 18, 2010 | 91 Comments
College Society + Culture

Lily’s College Lesbianage #5: Up on the Airplane, Inspired by Gravity

Things have been up and then down and then she was up in the air between home in Florida and college in New York writing this. A look back at where she’s been, why we all feel so lonely, and where she hopes to go… and also why the f did her brother not know she was gay?

By Lily| January 27, 2010 | 55 Comments
College

Confessions of a Teenage Run-a-Gay or “How (Not) to Go Home for the Holidays”

In a special guest edition of the College Lesbianage, Katrina will offer advice on how to make it through winter break with the family. Except that she doesn’t really have a pantsless leg to stand on, is writing from an undisclosed location, and has no idea what she’s talking about.

By phoenix| December 29, 2009 | 55 Comments
College

Lily’s College Lesbianage #4: Oh, College Girls!

Lily loses a girlfriend and finds new friends, goes home to Florida and wonders why she still feels uncomfortable discussing her sexuality amongst liberals and takes a gay retreat into the woods with fairies.

By Lily| December 14, 2009 | 41 Comments
College

College Lesbianage #3: When Will My Lovely Lesbian Bubble Burst?

Life is finally getting good for Intern Lily, who once felt unhinged, lonely and lost in her first year at Barnard. Now there’s love, a liberal bubble, and that constant fear of what happens when the real world comes by.

By Lily| November 15, 2009 | 42 Comments
College

College Lesbianage #2: I Can Dance With a Girl if I Want To

Everything’s starting to come up rainbows for Lily in her second month at Barnard. She’s met other lesbians, danced with girls … now if she could just find time to write that paper …

By Lily| October 10, 2009 | 26 Comments
College

College Lesbianage #1: I’m Looking for Girlfriends, Not Bridesmaids

Introducing “Lily’s College Lesbianage,” the first of many columns to come about lesbian college life all over the world . This week, Lily finds heteronormativity alive and well, even at Barnard, and copes with the anxiety of being a freshman lesbian weirdo surrounded by new people in a new city.

By Lily| September 21, 2009 | 60 Comments

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