The lights are out and everybody’s making out and we are having a live episode that you can watch (or read the transcript of!) right now, and also a podcast episode! WOW!

“A cultural exchange from a person with a prostate to those without.”

Riese: And then she explains that they have different core values.
Carly: Then Jodi says, “What are my core values?” And Bette says, “It doesn’t matter. It’s not a judgment.” What? What?
Riese: I want Bette to be like, “I see the beauty in things.”
Carly: And what do you see, Jodi? Also the beauty in things? Oh.
Riese: And Jodi’s like, “I’m wearing your exact outfit. Obviously, I also see the beauty in things.”

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The Autostraddle team offers advice on a relationship crisis, dealing with the fact that your ex has moved on quickly, a friend who is less interested in rekindling the friendship than you are, commitment and marriage and more!

Ultimately Kayleigh Llewellyn’s show proves that writing from a place of lived experience will always result in the sharpest stories — that’s as evident in its failures as it is in its successes.

“I’m throwing them a few bones of facts and things to know. But I’m also calling them to a higher order. Luring them in with the pussy and then challenging them with postcolonial theory.”

“I love that someone actually answered that they’re a ‘soup chef’.”

What if you don’t like receiving oral sex, but want to? What if you canNOT get your new crush/person out of your head, but need to focus on work? What to do if you’re longing for queer chosen family, but don’t feel like you’ve gotten there, and more!

Advice for coping with a parent who’s an addict, being accountable to people you’re dating, and more!

We have the transcript as well as links to any products that were shown during Merry Fistmas: A Virtual Vaginal Fisting Workshop, AND the link to the recording, all wrapped up for you right here!

Portrait of a Lady on Fire is only the third film in the Criterion Collection to feature queer women that’s actually directed by a queer woman.

Making queer friends in quarantine, holding a candle for your ex, being out as bisexual at work, unpacking a past relationship with boundary issues, poly nesting feelings, roommates who make you feel like a fifth wheel, social media related envy in your creative community, and MORE! Become an A+ Member today to submit your own advice questions, get access to this twice monthly series, and keep Autostraddle going for everyone.

If you’ve read this far I think it’s pretty clear that I love a highly competent femme with a lot of personal problems.

The aftermath of covering protests in Portland, how the WNBA is honoring Breonna Taylor, France’s first transgender mayor and more!

With a total of five lesbian, bisexual, queer and trans Black women characters in the main cast, Lena Waithe’s “The Chi” certainly made history this summer. But did making “The Chi” gayer turn it into a better show?

Queer women’s television has grown significantly in recent years. Still, we’ve watched our best continue to be sidelined by a straight white male majority that won’t pay attention to queer stories, women’s stories, stories about people of color. Well, no more my friends!

I hope those of you who celebrate had a relatively joyous Rosh Hashanah. And now please join me in the High Holy Day of revisiting a Jewish queer woman classic.

Is it a “friend” coffee or a “date” coffee, unemployed and feeling unmoored, negotiating initiating intimacy in a relationship with two people on the asexual spectrum, you feel like your best friend is making questionable dating decisions, grooming your armpit hair, taking a break from therapy, you’ve never been in a long-term relationship, trying to exist outside of capitalism, possible pelvic floor concerns — and more!

“I just want you to know that I don’t even want to go to Ilene Chaiken’s pool, but I want that for you so badly. I would die for your right to go to Ilene Chaiken’s pool.”