Real L Word #104 Recap: Gambling with Love & Lesbian Sex


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“So Look We’re on This Show, And You’re Gonna See It in June, And You’re Gonna Have Some Questions For Me.”

Whitney has gotten herself into an “uncomfortable” “situation” and is “confused” and “curious” about what Tor’s feeling. Me too, ’cause Tor never talks.

Whitney: I want to make sure that everything is open. I just wanna know what position I’m supposed to take with you moving out here.
Tor: I was gonna come out here and see what happens. And I see what you’re doing — what are you doing?
Whitney: In terms of other people? Like I guess, you mean have I hooked up? Yeah, I’ve hooked up.

In Terms of This Look? Did I Steal This Look From Edward Cullen? Yeah, I Stole It

Laneia: “What are you doing” “in terms of other people?” FUCK YOU! Does she even know what exclusivity means?
Riese: No I don’t think she can read/write —
Laneia: Whitney’s completely lying to her!
Riese: She don’t know much, she just knows she doesn’t love her. And that may be all she needs to know.

And Her Heart Says Whatever

Tor says she knew none of this. Okay, that’s fine, but Whitney’s got a strong defense: “I brought up your name every time.” This is how we imagine that happening:

Like, “TOR I WANNA FUCK YOU SO HARD OH SORRY I MEAN ROMI I WANNA FUCK YOU SO HARD! I WANNA BITE YOUR FEATHER EARRING RIGHT OFF AND THEN FUCK YOU WITH IT IN YOUR EAR TOR I MEAN ROMI!” It happens.

Tor says that Whitney has douched her around and hasn’t even been a good friend: she’s correct on both counts and also just used “douche” as a verb in the most amazing way possible.

I wish I could pour some more drink into Tor’s glass to help ease her pain. The pain of knowing she cannot withstand The Power of the Clam. Now she’ll never find out what lesbian sex is. Consequently, neither will we.

DRINK UP, BABY, DRINK UP

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Laneia: “You haven’t even been a good friend”! YES YES YES!
Riese: These people need to read a book and have a book club or something.

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Alexandra: If I move to LA, I will ride my single-speed bike around town and egg people like this.
Riese: Alex when you talk about moving to LA while we’re watching this show, I get sad. That’s like saying you want to become a Nazi during Schindler’s List.

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Back in Las Vegas, the assistants can’t find a chapel willing to host Mikey’s Lesbian Wedding because its Mike’s Lesbian Wedding. Shanna’s shocked. Welcome to our world, baby, haven’t you always wondered how we got so bitter & grumpy. We weren’t born this way.

We were born this way:

And have become this way:

Mikey’s wandering around like a lezbro with a big dick, looking at her big pool table and big windows, etc.

Shanna: Why does nobody do civil commitment ceremonies?
Cecie: You would think in Vegas like of all places!

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Riese: Because there’s no such thing as a “civil commitment ceremony”? She’s getting her second-class citizen vocab mixed up.
Laneia: “You would think in Vegas, of all places, where NO ONE HAS ANY MORALS, that someone would be down, right??”
Riese: Honey. Nobody’s getting married. Ever. Not tonight.
Laneia: YOU’RE NOT GETTING MARRIED.

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On the upside, these are also real lesbians with nice posters:

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A call to the batphone…

The Joke’s On Who? Me?!

Hey-o! Raquel missed her flight for that night and will have to come in tomorrow morning. Mikey explains that because Mikey missed her flight on 9/11 from Pittsburgh to LAX, which got hijacked with all her bags inside (she lost her entire collection, it was devastating etc), she’s not upset at Raquel. She’s just 95% confident that her future wife just dodged a close encounter with Al Queda. Hey, whatever works.

Call, Call it Off, Break my Own Heart

Mikey breaks the news to her ladies: THE WEDDING IS OFF. The good news is nobody’s pants are going to explode mid-air. The bad news is; nobody’s pants are going to explode mid-air.

Laneia: I think Mikey was really just trying to make good teevee, you know? Like, she’s really just trying here.
Riese: Mikey is always making me so sad. I just feel sad, I want better things to happen to Mikey.


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No, Fuck YOU, Penguin.

Lest you feel there’s not enough wedding planning happening in this episode, we’re back! Nikki’s dress is gonna cost $6,175 dollars, which is about $6,135 dollars more than I’ve got in my checking account and $4,175 more than their initial estimate. Although Nikki’s ready to spend some g’s, this is way too many g’s.

At that price, I’d want something a little more like this:

Amirite? TWO WORDS: AMPLIFYING EXSOSKELETON.

Anyhow, Jill & Nikki email Camilla, because unless she’s exhuming JoAnn (as in the creator of JoAnne Fabrics, a famous fabric-person/store) to hand-stitch every detail from the skin of baby lambs, this is so not worth it. There’s a lot of cute dogs in this episode though:

Lady ISO Tramp

This is just like hanging out with your friends planning a wedding, an activity for which I’d come armed with a novel.

Riese: This is like listening in on a customer service phone call–
Laneia: –while sitting on your girlfriend’s lap.

Nikki & Jill are both Jewish and they are both lesbians, so the delegation & execution process for this particular action step is complicated/funny/cute/real/fine. Jill wants to spend less, Nikki thinks Jill should’ve been nicer to the wedding planner. They’re so good at mitigating conflict together, what if they never fight? That would be so sad.

With dresses so expensive, they’ll have nothing left to donate to No on 8/spend on the caterers and will inevitably end up wearing their Super Turbo Wedding Dress to an afterparty at Kentucky Fried Chicken! This must be stopped!

One of ’em calls the other a “tough cookie,” which is neat. Like a Fig Newton!


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TerminatorCon

Back in Las Vegas the next day, Mikey is soooooo ready to get her Brochure on and excited to see Raquel when she arrives later in the day. Mikey’s clients are looking for success, and that’s what she’s gonna give ’em! Go team! Ann Taylor is in the house, and she’s likely as interested in hearing about LA Fashion Week as we are!

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Riese: If Mikey wears her sunglasses to meet new clients, I am going to kill myself.
Laneia: I just want to cut her fucking hair!
Riese: Lucky thing she’s got Jesus on her motherfucking arm.

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The hair does not impede Mikey’s drive for success. She & her entourage are undaunted. So what if it’s actually just a convention for swimming pools? Hello swimsuits are gay and fashion and should be in the show!

Mikey is chatting up some of the most influential names in fashion. This woman, for example, is famous for transforming my baby blanket into an 80’s style leather bomber jacket:

You never know, sundresses could totally come back this year. They’re very comfy:

Mikey is a magnet for future lezbros in Fedoras with visible side-boob-bra:

Mikey eyes prospective runway talent, I hope these bitches have comp cards:

Here Mikey attempts to win the affections from the straightest straight girls ever, who seem to be selling posterboard or maybe pink t-shirts? SEE YOU AT FASHION WEEK BITCHES! BRING THAT LIPSTICK, GIRL.

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Alexandra: You guys are right, she’s a 6.
Riese: Sunglasses!!
Alexandra: It’s probs really bright in there.

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Raquel interrupts Mikey’s Trade Show Champion Flow by calling Mikey to say she’s not coming to Vegas after all, that she can’t make it. Mikey gets so upset she almost walks into the Utility Closet to kill herself:

Close Call

But omg here’s the thing you guys — RAQUEL IS ALREADY IN VEGAS! What a sneaky bitch/sneaky production team who plotted this shit. Luckily she’s hidden beneath her giant ring and Old MacDonald hat, so nobody will find her:

There’s an uncertain amount of time between Raquel’s cancellation call and Mikey spotting Raquel in the trade center, at which point Mikey is cool as a frozen Terminator cucumber, preparing for her Vulcan Salute:

It’s a fake-out but Raquel’s gonna give her the makeout! Notice that Shanna likes this situation about 100 times more than Mikey does:

Have You Been Drinking?

In my book, a good surprise would’ve involved Raquel removing her clothing while dancing to “Hey Big Spender,” with lots of fun leg moves and maybe some background dancers from the Juicy Couture booth. Mikey doesn’t like the surprise either, but for different reasons.

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Laneia: This surprise was stupid, Raquel should’ve just scratched the whole thing and hugged Mikey. People don’t cuddle enough.
Riese: This show should just be cuddling
Laneia: I’d watch that
Alexandra: MOAR CUDDLING

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Riese is the 37-year-old CEO, CFO and Editor-in-Chief of Autostraddle.com as well as an award-winning writer, blogger, fictionist, copywriter, video-maker, low-key Jewish power lesbian and aspiring cyber-performance artist who grew up in Michigan, lost her mind in New York and then headed West. Her work has appeared in nine books including "The Bigger the Better The Tighter The Sweater: 21 Funny Women on Beauty, Body Image & Other Hazards Of Being Female," magazines including Marie Claire and Curve, and all over the web including Nylon, Queerty, Nerve, Bitch, Emily Books and Jezebel. She had a very popular personal blog once upon a time, and then she recapped The L Word, and then she had the idea to make this place, and now here we all are! In 2016, she was nominated for a GLAAD Award for Outstanding Digital Journalism. Follow her on twitter and instagram.

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77 Comments

  1. I cannot speak because I lol-ed too hard.
    Seriously, watching this episode was painful on so many levels, so called lesbians trying to explain what lesbian sex is and what IS considered as sex in a very hetero-normal way, was just a disgrace…
    Thank God for your recaps 😀
    This show is just fake and unreal, it’s completely alien to me.
    Now I’m just hoping that the BBC will release their damn British L word-like show, “Lip Service” so that we have a proper portrayal of lesbians on TV 😀 Oh hell, bring back Callie and Arizona for an extra summer spin off of Grey’s Anatomy, whatever!

  2. I love the flow chart! I will bust that shit out at Thanksgiving so that my whole family can be enlightened about the mysteries of sex.

    OM NOM NOM (I made a sandwich).

  3. …you guys i know we/i love tracey and stamie but what if they were wrong? what if my vagina CATCHES ON FIRE?!

    or worse, what if all we ever do is cuddle?!!

  4. Until the last season, I pretty much loved “The L Word” even though the characters were not like any lesbians I have ever known in my entire life.

    For that same reason, I find “The Real L Word” very unreal. I am not a big fan of realty shows, most of them seem contrived to me, so I may not be the best to even make a statement about this new creation from Ilene Chaiken.

    My partner and I write coming out books for lesbians, bisexual and questioning women, and we have a support group with over 950 members. Some of our members like the show, and some don’t like it at all. This quote seems to be the consensus of the members who don’t like the show:

    “I don’t want to be a lesbian like any of those women…I don’t want to be associated with any of them…”

    I was really hoping that this would not be the case, as our group has discussions about current events, news and movies that concern the LGBT community quite a bit. I was looking forward to them being able to see a good reality show about real lesbian life, and the discussions that would follow each week.

    Maybe “The Real L Word” will grow on our members who don’t like it, but sadly most were so turned off the first couple of episodes, that they are not giving it a chance to do so. They are still watching “The L Word” on DVD though…

  5. “Alex when you talk about moving to LA while we’re watching this show, I get sad. That’s like saying you want to become a Nazi during Schindler’s List.”

    Funnier/truer words were never written.

  6. ok, now that I’m done with page one (I’ll finish reading later), I just gotta say queerfolk,

    If you eat out a girl without a dam, you could get HPV in your throat which can lead to THROAT CANCER. So no fuck you to Whitney, miz “Oral sex exchange” is not “full sex.”

    My general rule of thumb is that if you’re doing something that could expose you or your partner/s to STDs, it’s sex. Just because there isn’t a cis dick involved doesn’t negate the fact that it’s fucking.

    In conclusion, you had sex with the girl who fingered you last night. Always use gloves/dams/condoms plz!!

    Related: Could it be any clearer that this show is not for us? Otherwise why the fuck would they spend an episode explaining what lezzie sex is? It’s so heterosexist/misogynist of them to perpetuate the notion two women can’t fuck each other. Piss off, TRLW.

  7. “Hey So, About You Being a Total Douchebag…
    Whitney is hungover and tired from One Night in Romi, and Alyssa is annoyed and tired from Living Every Day With Whitney while Whitney Makes My Cousin Sad.”

    hilarious.

    i’ve started referring to Whitney as The Predator cuz she looks like the Predator and acts like one.

    Mikey in my crib is now referred to as Rod Stewart.

    that’s all for now.

  8. “Mikey is so inspired by the breathtaking views of sin and greed that she decides she’s gonna marry Raquel that very night, ’cause it turns out she can fly in after all.”

    I thought this was a joke, but then it turned out to NOT BE A JOKE AT ALL

  9. If I ever get married, it’ll be H&M dresses, beer / potato chips and flowers from my garden.

    Seriously Real L Word peeps, keep your money for stuff that actually matters: cat food, computers or, I don’t know, fighting for our rights maybe?

  10. You know when you have a dream and you wake up not remembering it but you still get the creeps from it The Real L Word is that dream.

    Awesome recap. Way better than the god damned show.

  11. This review was so funny! The past reviews were kind of Rush Limbaugh just hateful for no reason. Now you are like Howard Stern…still hateful but funny. Okay maybe hate is a bit much…but highly annoyed. I really didn’t know that white people were like this…meaning that I didn’t know you guys saw other white people who clearly aren’t you and some how make it about yourself. See I know some black people and they get all upset of let’s say BET because it somehow represents them. This is kind of like that…ridiculous.

    My wife and I (legally married in Canada) have been together for seven years and every week we see parts of our relationship somehow represented in the show. And it makes us laugh and reflect on the trials and tribulations of said romance. But at no time do we cringe of even care about the embarrassing things that they do because as much as it is a show it’s not scripted. So I am just going to speak for the cast, of who I admit I don’t know from a can of paint and say, it is what it is! When you guys get a little older you will see that this show is great.

    • I agree, the other recaps just seemed hateful and they actually made me more embarrassed to be gay than the show itself. The joke was on Autostraddle instead of TRLW.

      But this one was actually funny! Keep up the good work girls!

      • the joke was on Autostraddle? ’cause we were honest about how we felt about the show? It’s a bad show. I wrote this recap to please everybody, but in the past I was honest and i think honesty is important, and I don’t care about representation ’cause I don’t think anyone is watching this show so it doesn’t matter really. I just want to be entertained, is all, to be at least as compelling as other reality shows that people apparently liked a lot more.

        The recaps made you embarrassed to be gay? really?

        That’s devastating.

          • lol. I love how the first 2 comments are like insults rolled in loving appreciation.

            I’ve tried to watch and it’s laughable and the level of stupidity and superficiality is awe-inspiring (to be fair, I hate on all reality tv) but mostly it’s freaking me out because IFC is driving. it ain’t about the color of their skin, but I know some people in this world still live there, so ok.

            btw, nobody can _make_ you feel something. that comes wholly from within. just sayin’.

    • Perhaps what the people actually say when they’re actually in front of the cameras is unscripted, but come on, you know they pull stuff apart and piece it back together in post. That’s, like, the reality show modus operandi.

  12. The “Is it sex” flowchart needs to be made into t-shirts, like right now.

    This show is just too much for me. The only reason I’m glad that it exists is for these incredible recaps. I agree that I am more interested in the main cast’s friends, lovers, and family.

  13. “it tastes the same(if you close your eyes)” = amazing. every time RENT is referenced, a fairy gets its wings.

    also, that flowchart is for sure in the top 5 best things i have seen in my life ever.

  14. I rofl at them. Since when is a sex act not a sex act? Who the hell is rewriting these definitions and how much of ‘la la la la I can’t hear you!’ goes into it? I can go down on a gal, and finger, and do a whole crapload of stuff, etc spoon after and fall asleep from exhaustion (booyah)… but according to these crazy kids, we never had sex! WOT! -.-

  15. Also, I have a big crush on Raquel, ginormous finger ring notwithstanding. Her ring reminds of the ginormous ring Bette was wearing when she kissed Tina at Shebar in season 5.

    Are ginormous finger rings a new trend that I don’t know about?

  16. “HOW COOL IS THIS FONT?!” = DIED.

    can i reiterate the fact that when i say i hate whitney and want to barf on her knees, i mean the CHARACTER of whitney that the editors have tried so desperately to create. i don’t hate anyone IRL b/c none of this shit is RL, so.

    i’m standing by all of the haircut comments, though. seriously.

    also this is maybe probably the best recap so far.

  17. Thanks for your hard work on the recap. Worth it. And worth repeating that the recap is 50 times better than the show. That sex flowchart is so, so good, and I’ve been LOL’ing, rereading and re-LOL’ing at this all morning: “Mikey explains that because Mikey missed her flight on 9/11 from Pittsburgh to LAX, which got hijacked with all her bags inside (she lost her entire collection, it was devastating etc), she’s not upset at Raquel. She’s just 95% confident that her future wife just dodged a close encounter with Al Queda.”

  18. I am really glad I never have to watch this show because I have your recaps. Thank you. And thank you for the flowchart. That was very informative. I think maybe before I was confused.

    Also “This is like when your mom talks about your first period to your neighbors or something.” Yes.

    And at work the other day a rowdy table of 6 was raving about the real L word (and maybe there was one lesbian at the table, or maybe zero) and I had to try really hard not to die from laughing and get fired on my first shift. Or not die on my first shift.

  19. I’m pretty sure I’m not alone when I say that the OG L Word played a significant role in my coming out to myself process (Poor little lonely lez etc etc). I don’t even want to think of where I might be in life if I had peeped out the Closet and saw this Real rif raf instead. Oh god. I probably would have dove right back in and jumped on the first train back to the Penetration Station.

  20. Once, long ago, possessed with the same desire to definitively answer the Sphinx-ian riddle of “what IS lesbian sex?” I walked around West Hollywood with a video camera and interviewed fellow lesbians (some sober, some not-so-sober) re: their opinions/definitions of lesbian sex and lesbian porn. The answers I got were all over the damn place, much like the girls on TRFLW. I would show the doc to you guys, because it actually turned out really funny and I interviewed some awesome Brits and The French Shane (no, really, she looked just like Shane but was French) but I didn’t get any actor releases because it was just for a college class. HOWEVS…the flow chart made my life/summed up all the various answers PERFECTLY and I second, third, double-fist the motion that it be made into T-shirts, posters, etc. etc.

    Conclusion: lesbian sex has multiple definitions just like lesbians give each other multiple orgasms. case closed.

  21. The only reason I continue to watch this show (other than that other reason that involves something like driving slowly past a semi/smart-car accident) is so I can have my deliciously hearty belly-laugh of the week over reading these recaps. Riese, if I wasn’t already in a lovely relationship, I would hop a plane to take you out– we could discuss the oh-so-elusive definition of lesbian sex and ponder the sunglasses-indoors agenda (sigh)

  22. I’m commenting on this because I want Riese to know that her Herculean efforts are appreciated.

    Also, this…The oral sex exchange is like the stock exchange. Where everyone also gets fucked.…is AMAZING.

  23. Just so we’re all clear, Beyonce stays at the MGM and her suite has two levels AND has a pool table.

    Is there any chance Mikey got the fancy pants Luxor suite because they thought she was Rod Stewart?

  24. Your recaps are amazing, you guys are so funny. But I feel kinda guilty loving them because you hate having to watch it so much, and then having to write about it – thats true dedication! Which is very much appreciated from me too!

  25. Does Mikey mean that her collection was on any old random flight from Pittsburgh to LAX on 9/11, she missed THAT flight, and then the collection was lost in the ensuing travel stoppage? Because there was no hijacked flight from Pittsburgh to LAX on 9/11/01. A check of Wikipedia confirms that the hijacked flights were BOS->LAX, BOS->LAX, Dulles->LAX, and Newark->SFO. If that’s creative editing, that’s beyond offensive.

  26. hahaha i would also be a person to bring a novel to a wedding planning session, just like i declined to join a wedding dress shopping trip less than a fortnight ago, because snore/suicide. so thank you for the entertainment and the sacrifice because i want to know what’s happening but i sure as shit am not watching it.

  27. 1. I am 2 episodes behind.
    2. Robin refuses to watch this show because it bums her out.
    3. If Sara had made out with Whitney I was going to tell everybody, but she didn’t. So I have nothing interesting to tell you.

  28. Love the recap. Love this show.

    Nikki & Jill are so cute. Tracey and Stamie are sweet. And Whitney, Rose and Mikey’s shenanigans crack me up, they look like they know how to have a good time!

    Some people obviously take it waaaaaay too serious though. Always that whole ‘ow but it’s not representative’, ‘that’s not what lesbians are really like’ & ‘I don’t know anyone like that’ discussion.. Come on! It’s entertainment; watch it, enjoy it, make fun of it, and then move on.

    X

  29. This is completely irrelevant but I just wanted to share the joy I feel. Why? Well, because as of today marriage is for everyone in Argentina! 14 hours of debate, i was so nervous…this is such a relief.

    • Felicitaciones!! Va a casarles ahora 🙂

      (that might not have been correct, but i’m trying…and now i have yet another reason to move to buenos aires)

  30. I have a question for the law people here: is it even LEGAL to cut statements together the way you want them to be in a TV show? I mean, Nikki declared that she never actually said the thing about looking more “fabulous” in a designer dress but was talking about her weird body shape. They simply took two totally different sentences and cut them together into one.

    Just imagine the police working together with IFC in a murder investigation, it would be -oh wait THEY DID, weirdest investigation ever! Now we know how Alice would have ended up in jail. “I didn’t murder Jenny, I did have crazy sex with my girlfriend though” could suddenly become. “I didn’t have crazy sex with my girlfriend, I did murder Jenny though”

  31. I missed the last show/recap so when I saw there were four whole pages of recap for this ep I thought several worrisome things about why there might be so much, and wondered if perhaps the last three pages were just full of “ALL TLRW AND NO PLAY MAKES AUTOSTRADDLE A DULL BOY” and the extreme exposure required for recapping should have made you flip.

    I mean, this is really a superhuman effort for you guys to keep doing this.

    There are too wonderful/hilarious things in this recap to quote without reaching the comment box’s perhaps-non-existent character limit, so I will just pick my fave:

    Laneia: I want my dress to be thesaurus.com. But only the good words.

    This is the first thing I have ever read that has made me seriously want to marry someone.

  32. I went to bed before I finished reading the recap cause I was super sleepy, but I keep dreaming about weird haircuts and weirder definitions of lesbian sex. I’m pretty happy I don’t get to watch this, recaps are enogh.

  33. Another excruciating experience…
    Ilene Chaiken knows how to make a dead boring, fake, annoying show about lesbians!

    I know the Luxor Hotel and the Roxbury Cafe now, i have the “LA non existent Fashion Week” and “Stamie’s doing a stand up every Thursday” written in my DNA and i can sleep tight!

    I also know that Nikki’s loaded with money and she wants to spend it to a Nirvana Jewish Wedding, that is not even recognized by the State.

    What the F*#ck?

    At least i have my weekly recap on Autostraddle! Thank you girls!!

  34. so, I wasn’t aware that it was so damn hard to define lesbian sex. how ’bout this? if you’re female and trying for an orgasm with one or more chicks, then you’re having lesbian sex.

    now that i got that outta the way. i possibly love the recaps more than the actual show. it’s a shame whitney’s so annoying, because she’s really ‘effing cute.

  35. When I went to The Luxor, there was no pool table. Temples, grave chambers and buildings from before Time, however, were present.

    I’m never going to Las Vegas. I feel like my esthetics center never would make a full recovery,

  36. the “if its not penetration its not sex” comment made me so goddamn mad and was probably pieced together so that all the straight dudes watching the show feel great about their nasty schlongs. not all dykes like penetration. my girlfriend and i BOTH don’t like it, and we give each other multiple orgasms almost every night. shit, it’s like the show went back to 1950 when no one knew what a CLITORIS was. to me, sex=ORGASMS, achieved with one or more partners! my answer to any stupid ass who asks me what lesbians do in bed is “have orgasms rather than fake them and then get a urinary tract infection the way most straight girls do.”

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