The Basics



About Me

Looking For

Queer Friends in my Area, Queer Friends on the Internet, Queer Friends to Make Out With, Business Contacts


Diligence, intelligence, attention to detail, and is squirminess a virtue?


Whiskey, gin, insecurity, insecurity, and whiskey.

Are You Out To Your....

It's Complicated, Other

What I Like

Favorite Books

"I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings," "Catch-22," "Lord of the Rings," "The Hobbit,""Ulysses," "The Color Purple," "Murphy," "The Second Sex," "Opened Ground," "A Vindication of the Rights of Whores," "The Posthumous Memoirs of Bras Cubas," and "A Room of One's Own."

Favorite Queer Books

"Keeping You a Secret," "Luna," "Whipping Girl," "Gender Outlaw," "Normal Life," "Gender Trouble" (We have disagreements on the extent of performativity, but I still like it a lot), "A Secret Woman," "Secrets in the Stone," and why yes, I AM a boring bookish nerdling.

Favorite Movies

"Once upon a Time in America," "Nina's Heavenly Delights," "Brazil," "Raging Bull," "Better than Chocolate," "The Evil Dead," "Evil Dead 2," "The Seventh Seal," "The Seven Samurai," and does "Doing It Ourselves" count? Porn is movies, right?

Favorite TV Shows

Pushing Daisies (I want to own everything Anna Friel wears in this, plus I think I had a crush on Swoosie Kurtz with an eye patch – it was a bit of a startling revelation, but not unpleasant!) Buffy (I don't think I needed to say this), Angel, Dead Like Me, Mystery Science Theater, Monty Python, Fawlty Towers, Boston Legal, Ally McBeal.

Favorite Music

Basically everything from Irish folk through blues and bebop all the way to grunge: The Corrs, Cara Dillon, Blackmore's Night, John Coltrane, Ella Fitzgerald, Louis Armstrong, The Pogues, Alice in Chains, Soundgarden, The Melvins, J.S. Bach, Isis, Boris, Cynic, Blue Oyster Cult, Primus.

Favorite Thing to Autostraddle

My pillow, apparently. But never consciously.

Favorite Thing on

Femme, trans*, and bi visibility? In my lesbian experience? Awesome!

Favorite Writers

Kim Addonizio, Alix Olson, Dean Spade, Maya Angelou, Julie Ann Peters, Julia Serano, Seamus Heaney, Rachel Pollack, James Joyce, Samuel Beckett, John Donne, John Millington Synge, J.R.R. Tolkien, Geoffrey Chaucer, Virginia Woolf and this is getting hard to pare down…