How do you build chosen family? Should you consider pursuing romantic connection when your friends have become more distant? And do we have ideas for your anniversary celebration? (We do!)

The Autostraddle team offers advice on a relationship crisis, dealing with the fact that your ex has moved on quickly, a friend who is less interested in rekindling the friendship than you are, commitment and marriage and more!

We’re here in this round of advice to tackle everything that is heavy. Our team answers questions around adoption, sexual assault within the queer community, the personal decisionmaking around having white friends as a POC — and more.

Yvonne gets super-real about dealing with a very difficult situation, Aja talks toners, Cee takes a kitten on an airplane, and Laneia, Riese, Rachel and Heather say other things in response to things you said to us and well I don’t know I just think this is a really good one.

Your mom wants to braid friendship bracelets and you want to disappear into adulthood. Also, we help a reader embrace queer romance novels!

How do you stop comparing yourself to your girlfriend’s nesting partner, have big life conversations with your partner, deal with feeling your friends don’t love you as much as you love them, and more?

You all are just so cool!

Should you come out to your father who also has narcissistic personality disorder? What do you do with the digital remains of a relationship post-breakup? Navigating privilege, the pandemic and the uprising; feeling “behind” in life, crushing on a quarantine roommate, and more!

How do you make a gif? I need a gif of Shane saying “where do you LIVE Mark??” Do you know the scene Im talking about?

We’ve got 29 gorgeous questions and like 100 answers, so if you need help and you asked for it, you might find it in here. Casual hookups, breakups, threesomes, gender uncertainty, dating a co-worker, letting her down easy and so much more!

“It was like throwing a tennis ball at a wall and expecting it to bounce back but against all odds it gets stuck in the bricks.”

“Just tried a paleo/gluten free baked good because the cute coffee shop girl said they were good, but they were gross. Feeling very betrayed right now.”

Where can I hang out with other queers in Portland? Is it okay that I was drunk when I filled out my A+ survey? Skins Fire: why? Why do straight people wear lesbian footwear? These questions of yours and more are answered in this here post.

How do you talk to a friend about their messy house and personal hygiene? Plus advice for a therapist who is overstepping, soothing oneself during a friend breakup, and tips for gay stuff in Pittsburgh!

An older lesbian needs advice for coping with dates expecting her to desire penetration, plus advice on the politics of dietary restrictions, finding love while allergic to cats, and the classic two bottoms: one relationship.

“My wife and son didn’t know; no one knew. The guilt crept up when I unloaded the groceries in the kitchen, stolen and paid-for alike.”

Which Bachelorette star admitted she’d snagged a bachelorette of her own this August?

Heather knows, she knows, how to connect with people through stories and writing, she knows how to make you feel seen, buoyed, valued, special, important, remarkable.

“The right people will understand this. Trust that you will find them.”

Advice for coping with your partner’s internalized fat-phobia, wedding vows, navigating social situations and friendships as an autistic person, and more!