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A Scene & Notes From Kamala’s Novel Zigzags

I’m sharing part of a scene from the book that captures the essence of why I love to write fiction: so I can write the fantasy dates with girls I adore, whether or not they happened quite that way.

By Kamala Puligandla| December 19, 2020 | 4 Comments
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One Last Letter From This Editor

I’ve had three full-time jobs for this company for 11 years and today I’m taking the triumphant step of knocking that down to two!

By Riese| June 24, 2020 | 82 Comments
Television

What Are Your Five TV Shows To Get To Know You?

The Autostraddle TV Team takes on Twitter’s “Five TV Shows to Get to Know Me” meme. Yes, our relationships with television are perfectly fine and healthy THANKS.

By The TV Team| February 12, 2020 | 47 Comments
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Welcome Our New Autostraddle Deputy Editor, Kamala Puligandla!

I just want a gay utopia, okay?

By Kamala Puligandla| December 18, 2019 | 40 Comments
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Send Autostraddle a Birthday Card, Because We’re Turning 10!

In honor of our 10th birthday, our Birthday Issue, and your senior editors’ intrepid love for all things DIY and tangible in a world determined to go all digital, we invite you to send Autostraddle a physical birthday card to celebrate our big day.

By Vanessa| January 31, 2019 | 15 Comments
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Monday Roundtable: Reflections on Being 19 From 2019

“I hadn’t yet come to terms with being a lesbian, so I also spent a lot of time making excuses not to have sex.”

By the team| January 14, 2019 | 39 Comments
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Stories About Beyoncé That Are Really About the First Girl I Ever Loved

“I never could explain why my heart pounded when her soft hands reached out for mine. Why it felt like I was the only girl in the world, singing with her at the top of my lungs. The way my eyes would nervously glance down at her chest in that purple lace bra and white tank top. Until I could.”

By Carmen Phillips| November 28, 2018 | 14 Comments
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Autostraddle’s Ultimate Team Holigay Gift Guide 2018: All the Ways Money Can in Fact Buy Us Happiness

We put our heads together and this is what the Autostraddle Team wants for the holigays! We think you’ll find some sweet stuff for your loved ones in here, too.

By Vanessa| November 28, 2018 | 24 Comments
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Please Welcome Our New Autostraddle Associate Editor, Dr. Carmen Phillips!

It’s Carmen’s first full day as your new Associate Editor! She didn’t want it to end without saying Hi to all of you!

By Carmen Phillips| November 19, 2018 | 43 Comments
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Hello, Goodbye: This Is Way Better Than a Lesbian Breakup Letter

After more than five years at Autostraddle, Yvonne is stepping down as senior editor. But before she goes, she wanted to take some time to reflect on her time here and to thank the incredible team and community that she’s had the pleasure of getting to know over the years.

By Yvonne| November 6, 2018 | 35 Comments
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Monday Roundtable: The Board Games We Never Lose

“Ultimately, though, no one really wins, because to have won you’ve had to scream ‘peel’ on repeat until everyone hates you.”

By the team| October 29, 2018 | 50 Comments
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Monday Roundtable: Since You’ve Been Gone

These are the things that are gone from our lives now but we still think about and miss all the time.

By the team| October 15, 2018 | 23 Comments
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The Sports That Made You Gay, Ranked

28 very gay sports in very gay order.

By Ari| September 27, 2018 | 89 Comments
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Everything Is Queer Community: Instagram, the Void, and #SoftEggContent

Why did we all want to share this thing? What made some videos so appealing? Why…are we like this?

By Vanessa| September 7, 2018 | 22 Comments
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These Shirts Aren’t Mine

“I wear this shirt at least three times a week.”

By Laneia| August 11, 2018 | 27 Comments
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Monday Roundtable: Our Childhood Disobedience, Revisited

“I like to think I’ve put my talking-back skills to great use as an adult who enjoys proving points and getting the last word and being right.”

By the team| August 6, 2018 | 54 Comments
Society + Culture

Monday Roundtable: Say My Name

“The thing is, if the people in your life respect you, they’ll give you the space to figure out where you’re comfortable. It’s YOUR name. You’re the person who has deal with it every second of your life.”

By the team| July 30, 2018 | 81 Comments
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These Shirts Were Happenstance

“I wanted to not care where I was going that/any day; a girl who’d interrupt her routine for a brush with honesty.”

By Laneia| July 28, 2018 | 58 Comments
Society + Culture

Monday Roundtable: The Lifelong Journeys of Our Beloved Childhood Stuffed Animals

“I had two stuffed animal bear friends as a child. Pretty tight crew, I know, but two bears was enough as I also had an imaginary friend who was an adult woman that I had to entertain. I was only one child!”

By the team| July 16, 2018 | 52 Comments
First Person

These Shirts Were a Choice

The kind of miniseries that seems like a great idea when your fever is at its highest, truly.

By Laneia| June 30, 2018 | 49 Comments
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Riese Bernard Has Always Been Our Queero So We’re Really Glad She’s Featured In Them’s Queeroes 2018 Series

“How many lives has Autostraddle changed? How many lives has it saved? Thanks, Riese.”

By Vanessa| June 21, 2018 | 98 Comments
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