“People were always so impressed that you didn’t leave me, but your gift wasn’t staying — it was seeing. Most people don’t get to transition under the pansexual gaze of someone who loves them the way you loved me.”

This is more than a workplace where they’ll notify HR and we’ll all be polite about my pronouns.

This week’s Good Trouble shines a worthwhile light on the problem with cash bail.

I am ready to be fearless. To dream beyond Black womanhood and know that I — Black, queer, and not-quite-sure — am worthy, so worthy of all of the love, affirmation, and power the universe can muster.

“I don’t know what’s gayer: the outfit itself or the fact that Vivian remembers it in such specific detail 19 years later.”

“Rachel — just a heads up that you are at the top of my list of bisexuals most likely to have cut their own hair with a sword.”

May offers us a chance for deepening into rest and joy, while challenging us to stay curious about our assumptions.

What does Hanukkah look like when you’re a queer, Black, convert who doesn’t find deep meaning in traditional celebrations of the holiday?

“It’s funny that I’ve seen a hundred queer couples on TV at this point, and it was finally these two teenage dorks who really reflected my own reality back to me for maybe the first time.”

How could we talk about queer dating without talking about astrology and tarot?

Stigma isn’t easy to overcome this. To a large extent, we can’t do it alone: we are social creatures, and we depend on developing and maintaining relationships with each other in order to survive. But it is possible.

How do you make adult friends? The A+ team approaches this question from so many different angles to offer up advice on making adult friends while sober, making adult friends in a new city, making friends when you’re in a long-term relationship, finding potential new friends using Lex, meeting cool people with Instagram, deepening friendships that started through fandom, and more! “…that’s the beauty of the A+ Advice Box — you get a sampling of all our brains and then you get to make your own choices!”

“When I read the interviews I’m like this doesn’t sound funny at all. But I swear it is. Just watch the show.”

I once described a particularly elaborate session I’d had to a friend, and she seemed shocked and impressed. “You like, really love yourself, huh?” I do. I really do. And you can too!

Remember Tila Tequila?

This week’s Extra! Extra! looks at a whole slew of non-election related news, including LGBTQ+ rights and the trifecta of global pandemics: police violence, climate change and COVID-19. And then, of course, we do take a look at election-related news too.

Everything my toddler taught me about prioritizing play.

“That’s my whole junior high experience: No, I don’t want to be friends with you. I actually want to have sex with you.”

Our trans subject editor Xoai Pham speaks to Jayda Shuavarnnasri, Thai-American sexuality educator and resident #SexPositiveAsianAuntie, about sexual violence, myths about polyamory, and what it means to take up space as Asian women.

Cheryl Blossom outdoes herself by throwing a vengeful key party. You read that correctly!