“But much like masturbation and other “personal relaxation” methods, it’s pretty obvious that most women are smoking marijuana, but not talking about it. There is a cloud of shame permeating these issues for women, where there is absolutely none for men.”

“I’ve figured out is that it’s not so much how I present it’s what I do. And I finally learned how to casually flirt with people with an eyebrow raise or a smile or a wink, which elicits this response of “I see you and I wink back.””

This week in queer lit: women winning prizes, discussions about diversity, library-related crises, an excerpt from Sarah Schulman’s “After Dolores” and more.

We are clearly in November sweeps, because TV is just OOC right now. Get the skinny on Gossip Girl, How I Met Your Mother, Heroes, V, Grey’s Anatomy, Tabatha’s Salon Takeover, all of the Real Housewives, Parks and Recreation, SNL and more!

Learn about VINE Sanctuary and come to this awesome Vegan and Animal Rights Bookswap!

This episode’s theme is “people are mad at Piper and we don’t really blame them that much” and I know y’all agree.

Sarah Prager created Quist to make navigating our past a little bit easier.

Today you can buy “She Keeps Me Warm,” Mary Lambert’s new single, on iTunes. Let’s celebrate by listening together and holding hands, shall we?

Straight male comedian, Dylan Rhymer, has a hilarious and charming piece defending gay marriage in this Funny or Die clip.

A lesbian couple from Boulder, Colorado has been approved for the first green card granted to a same-sex spouses.

“Social equality for all people, regardless of size, must become a goal of the queer movement.”

“I’m gonna support the SHIT outta you.” (Also, a Lilith Flair playlist!)

But first: pass your Art History final with help from Beyonce.

“It’s important not just to have characters that challenge ideas about gender and sex, but to also have them in realistic settings.”

“This past year of my transition, 2012, has been one of road travel with many miles revisited across numerous American states… Not the least of my concerns was driving my friend Xene’s unfamiliar Prius. Yet, my larger concern was driving solo as a woman.”

Don’t bother funding research studies! Everyone’s favorite blowhard has your answers.

The Allure “Anti-Aging” Survey found “LGBT Community is More Attracted to People 10 Years Older,” according to a press release we found in our boxes this morning.

Team Autostraddle attended the National Equality March in Washington, D.C. this weekend. Images from the weekend’s events, including Lady Gaga, Dan Choi, Kristen Chenoweth, clever signage, cute Interns and Haviland Stillwell Gorgeous.

This week on NSFW Sunday: lingerie, the best vintage sci-fi porn (now with lesbian dominatrixes) and nation-wide sexual health rankings.

In which we talk puppies, cheese-based religions and collectively gawk at Intern Grace and Gabby.