“I’m not interested in creating comfortable spaces. I’m interested in safer spaces where people can be challenged.” Sammie Ablaza Wills gathers wisdom from their elders and fellow trans, queer community to lead the grassroots org, API Equality Northern California.

When love is a matter of desperation, how do you even begin to know what it is you desire? It doesn’t matter what shape love takes. Or does it?

I don’t want to be caught parading around in last generation’s false sense of security. I’m kicking off Autostraddle’s first Asian Pacific Islander American (APIA) Heritage month by exploring the values my own South Asian and Japanese American parents and grandparents imparted to me, to learn to carry them forward.

Judge Walker will begin hearing closing arguments in the Prop 8 trial today. Oh, and the Prop 8 supporters are going to ask him to expand the reach of the ban. Catch yourself up so we can process everything tomorrow!

It’s a tragedy when any publication shuts down, but for the state of Ohio, Prizm Magazine was the lifeblood of the LGBTQ+ community in an area still lacking statewide LGBTQ+ nondiscrimination protections; losing it is an example of what we’re losing in the world of arts and media due to COVID-19.

The couple originally announced their marriage just two months ago. Today is sad.

The United Methodist Church is expected to split over gay marriage, Puerto Rico’s earthquakes, LGBTQ youth in middle America, Julián Castro backs Elizabeth Warren, and more.

Cheating is a form of escape from our current situation; it allows us to momentarily be with someone else, maybe even be someone else, for a night. Honesty has consequences. Cheating, if we don’t get caught, does not.

Lena Waithe and Alana Mayo were married in front of Harvey Milk’s bust in San Francisco! 2019 is ending as a lesbian love fest!

I could be anything, my mother taught me. I could be anyone I wanted. Except for being an atheist lesbian — that wasn’t really on the menu.

Also hey tonight is the series finale of Killjoys!

As The Haunting of Hill House has found new life across decades, the queerness has become more explicit yet less important to the overall work.

This Month: Proper protocol for casual sex with strangers, combating internalized fatphobia, lots of trans feelings, and how to apologize when its 100% your fault. Plus, what to do when it’s time to divorce him and come out already!

Our team weighs in on 12 queer action/thrillers, from the Power Rangers to Atomic Blonde to Bound and beyond!

Plus: JR and Petra try co-parenting on Jane the Virgin, Lena Waithe smooches Halley Berry on the mouth on Jimmy Kimmel Live!, and Kat’s new love gets complicated on The Bold Type.

How confusing is this exactly? One adult human being + One adult human being = acceptable union. That’s all. No room for livestock or multiple wives or children in there, right? Right.

“In high school, I kissed a girl for the first time. It felt too comfortable and too right to think I was anyone but whom I was in that moment. I’ve followed that honesty my whole life.”

The mountains and forests of Northwest Montana were where I felt the freest as a lesbian, but I didn’t know that feeling had queer roots going back 100 years, to when my doppelgänger was wandering these woods.

“She soon gave me the golden lock – threw herself on the chair by me. We wept (& kissed).”

Plus: Stevie Nicks, the TIME 100, the 20th anniversary of Columbine, and an entire section dedicated Beyoncé’s “Homecoming” just because we can!