Sometimes in long-term relationships, our needs shift and/or our capacity to fulfill someone’s needs shift.

Read stories from other folks experiencing periods of no sex in relationships to start killing lesbian bed death at the root.

“As a trans woman, lesbian is about how I understand my gender as completely separate from men. I don’t ascribe my gender to perform for men. It gives me space to say that my attraction and my identity exists outside the bounds of what a man finds desirable.”

This week on NSFW Sunday: lingerie, cunnilingus, thinking kink and a guide to writing erotica.

“She’s basically my dream girl. We’ve hit it off fast over the past few months, and she’s one of my closest friends here at this point, and I am so incredibly calm around her.”

A nudes protocol (or whatever you wanna call it) is a personalized framework of rules about how your digital sexual data should be handled.

The history of lesbian weddings on TV: parents refusing to attend, wild ’90s hats, untimely deaths, a weed brownie rave on the Eiffel Tower, an impromptu prison wedding, the union of two solo gems and so much more.

Find answers to questions like “should I tell her?” and “what do I do if she’s unavailable?”

I want to be treasured for my many wonderful qualities beneath the surface and held proudly by the person who chooses to date me.

You are telling me one thing, which is that your wife and you communicate well and she cares for you, and then I am seeing something different, which is that your needs are continuously deprioritized in the relationship, and that seems to be how things play out when it comes to your wife’s actions.

Why a growth mindset is part of good relationships, why recommitment is sexier than commitment, emotional affairs, irritability and more.

When your girlfriend is your findom, what happens if your dog eats your sex toy, how to keep a shitty email from ruining your day and more.

Ah, bodies. These sacks of meat, bones and skin that we must drag around until we come up with a better way to get through this thing called life. We knew we needed to dig into this and who better to do it with than the one and only Samantha Irby?

Dating isn’t all sexting and thirst traps. It’s also heartbreak. This week we’re joined by Autostraddle’s Sex and Dating Editor Ro White to discuss break up strategy, when to break up, and the gay tradition of remaining friends afterward.

She’s isolating you from the things that make you a capable, confident, well-rounded person, and when you adhere to her rules, you’re enabling codependency.

Boundaries are our manifestations of how we deserve to be treated and what we will accept from others.

Please, help me help you. Push your puzzles aside. It’s time to squirt.

If we all spent more time taking selfies can you IMAGINE the confidence of the queer community at large? We would be unstoppable.

We have more movies about lesbian and bisexual women than ever before; they’re not necessarily always realistic, but can still bring us meaningful and constructive relationship truths, regardless of how far removed from our real lives their plots are, or how many falcons they contain.

A hot take: processing literally everything all the time is not only *not good*, it is actually *bad*!