New GOProud Video Explaining Gay Conservatism Is GOPathetic

I’m always interested to hear from queer Republicans. Trying to understand how someone can reconcile two identities that seem so contradictory to me tends to be a worthwhile mental and empathetic exercise. So when I saw that a bunch of queer attendees of the Republican National Convention had decided to talk to some cameras, I had to press play, and then I had to ask myself why I pressed play, and then I had to get a glass of water to calm my nerves, and then I had to figure out what the heck these people are doing and let you guys know about it. Autostraddlers, meet GOProud’s newest attempt to rationalize voting their own rights away.

Buzzfeed filmed this video outside a GOProud-sponsored RNC dance party called “Homocon” (thus the neon, which was notably absent from the rest of the convention).  GOProud was founded in 2009 by Christopher Barron and Jimmy LaSalvia, both of whom are in the video — Barron’s the one who is “married to a man in Washington D.C.” and LaSalvia is the one who “happens to be a pro-life social conservative” (if that’s true, he’s the only person with genetically determined political beliefs). The group bills itself as “a national organization of gay and straight Americans who seek to promote freedom by supporting free markets, limited government and a respect for individual rights.”


This is pretty standard so far, but GOProud takes it farther. As of right now, it’s also the only national gay group to have endorsed Mitt Romney. The Log Cabin Republicans, despite participating in the party’s platform drafting process, were unhappy with the end result, especially “the obsessive exclusion of gay couples . . . from the rights and responsibilities of marriage,” and have so far declined to endorse any candidate. The newly launched Young Conservatives for the Freedom to Marry, who attempted to sway the platform committee in early August with a letter emphasizing how marriage equality aligns with Republican ideals (including “more individual freedom, personal responsibility, and the importance of family”), and citing the public’s increased support for the idea, were also disappointed and have withheld official endorsement.

So what makes the GOProuders different?  Why is each one able to look into the camera, show his shiny teeth, and in one breath espouse his support for gay marriage AND his intention to vote for a candidate who signed a NOM pledge? I watched the video over and over again, did some supplementary research, and tried to figure it out. My first theory was that they, like Zen masters or preteens, have a unique ability to hold two contradictory ideas in their heads at the same time – any pro-lifer who also “wants government out of peoples’ lives” must be great at this. Indeed, many of their statements sound like unparsable koans (“I’m a conservative and I share my conservative values and principles with others in the conservative movement”; “I think the government should stay in the government”; “what is the sound of one Mitt clapping?” (fine I made that last one up)), or topic sentences from that middle school paper you wrote on the bus (“being conservative means a lot of things, you know”).

Then I thought maybe they believed that Romney, who has continuously yo-yoed on social issues during his political career, will swing forward on this one again – LaSalvia has called the Republican platform “a meaningless document,” and board member Lisa De Pasquale said there were more people at the Homocon party “than will ever read [it].”  The idea that anyone gung-ho enough about a political party to attend a convention would be willfully unaware of that party’s plans is scary enough. The idea of gay people dancing happily from Homocon to the voting booth without reading what they’re signing feels like Soylent Green-level treachery.


In the end, though, it seems that the people of GOProud, like many other gay conservatives, consider their partial blindness a matter of priorities – a kind of martyrdom of civil rights for the sake of economic well-being. “For far too long,” said LaSalvia in his Romney endorsement statement, “the gay left in this country has been allowed to dictate what they believe qualify as “gay issues.”  We think jobs, the economy, healthcare, retirement security, and taxes are all “gay issues.”” According to the “Beliefs and Tenets” on their website, reducing the size of government will “improve the daily lives of all Americans, but especially gay and lesbian Americans” – privatizing Social Security will “give gay and lesbian couples the same opportunity to leave their accounts to their spouses as their straight counterparts.” Leaving the gay marriage question to the states will ensure that the federal government can’t outlaw it (although this isn’t actually Romney’s position, and Senator Orrin Hatch recently got in some trouble for disagreeing with him on it). “Protecting the rights of parents to homeschool their children” will do more to stop bullying than any sort of federal initiative. These arguments overreach themselves (to leave your money to your spouse, you need to be legally allowed to have one), deny vital historical precedents (see Loving vs. Virginia), or just make any sane person’s heart hurt (“They’re making fun of little Jimmy?  Well, better keep him in the basement.”). And the core belief that drives them, that minorities can possibly benefit from a government that ignores them, is wishful thinking at best and unforgivably backwards at worst. It’s really only ever espoused by people who have been lucky enough to be born into a societal position where they will be ok if they’re left alone. I’m not saying I want the government in my bedroom, but I do want them acknowledging that I exist.  If the people of GOProud were truly proud, they’d want the same thing.

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  1. good article. sums up the problems with GOProud well.

    i guess there is a benefit to gay conservatives standing up and saying hey, we exist, although i did note, apparently GOProud is only white men. no people of color of women. oh republicans and your weirdness. and also just in general, as this article points out, hello cognitive dissonance.

    • Does the GOProud already have a slogan/motto? I vote for “Hello cognitive dissonance” as the new one.

  2. the best part is how they’re all “omg but i have MY rights, so everything is a-ok. i support gay marriage totally I MEAN I HAVE ONE lol TOO FUNNY amirite let’s vote for romeny bro!” sure, assholes. keep chuckling. just leave the rest of us here under our rainbow bus to burn, and try to keep laughing when the GOP comes for you, too. your money and your gender and your class will not keep you safe forever. the people you’re supporting hate all gay people equally. you can pretend for now, but if what you want to happen in the november election happens, we are all fucked under this big gay bus together. you might not be screwed today or tomorrow or the next day, but one day you will be. it’s honestly sad that they don’t realize that (and sigh, also sad that they are somewhat right i guess, they WILL be less screwed than those of us who aren’t as fortunate as they are…i fucking hate that, too.)

  3. Wealthy, white (gay) cis-men: “Everything is fine for me. I don’t know what these other queers are complaining about!”


  4. Actually, I understand where these guys are coming from, in theory. If we lived in a world where the Republican party only stood for fiscal conservatism and limited government, then their views would be entirely consistent with the GOP mentality. The problem is that the Republican party has, in fact, committed itself to the marginalization of LGBT people as its official stance (which actually shows more inconsistency on Republicans’ part than on GOProud’s.)

    My other thought is that there may be merit to trying to change an institution from the inside rather than defecting to the other camp and encouraging further polarization on both sides. While I disagree with many of their views, I admire them standing their ground and demonstrating that LGBT people are not uniformly liberal (or uniformly anything. We’re not a monolithic group goddammit.)

    But yes I agree with the mostly white male problem. And hoping people don’t yell at me, I’m open to hearing other perspectives on this though.

    • Word up – they seem to be conflating conservative political views (like fiscal conservatism and limited government, like you said) with the Republican party, which promotes ignorance, racism, and spends an inordinate amount of time and funds on gay-bashing and limiting women’s rights.

      I ain’t gonna fret over these GOProud kids tho, cause logic has a way of shutting that whole thing down.

    • Yeah, I’m not even remotely conservative but I can understand how one could be gay and be a libertarian, or even agree with some OTHER socially conservative positions, like re: abortion (though the way that anti-choicers also tend to shit on queer people’s access to health care would, I hope, give them pause). So I can get why groups like the Log Cabin Republicans exist.

      GOProud is not that, though. They’re basically just an organization of token gay friends for anti-gay conservatives. They’re completely lock-step with the current Republican platform, and that’s a problem.

  5. The guy at the end who says something like “I believe the government should have limited power when making policy, and also limited power when it comes to governing individuals, so I am consistent” SLAYED ME. If we limit the government’s power over the individual, we would see queer marriages. Which republicans vehemently oppose.

    ‘Consistent’- that word does not mean what you think it means.

  6. everything about GOProud is terrible, but the line “what is the sound of one Mitt clapping?” makes everything all better again.
    just kidding. I’m gonna go drown what’s left of my faith in humanity in a bucket so that it can never be hurt like this again.

  7. As a Canadian I find all of this to be terribly confusing because I know a great deal of socially liberal but fiscally conservative individuals, both gay and straight. It might be, however, that in Canada we have our human rights protected in a way that the U.S.A. has yet to catch on to, so we know that our politicians, even if they hold conservative social values, will not do anything to harm the social values that we hold dear as a country. Even our Conservative government isn’t threatening institutions like abortion or gay marriage. However, I think people need to understand that being fiscally conservative does not make one evil, illogical, or ill-informed. It just makes their value system different from yours.
    However, I must concede that a gay man who is pro-life is so infuriating for so many reasons. How awful and ridiculous.

    • “Even our Conservative government isn’t threatening institutions like abortion or gay marriage.” – only because they don’t have the power to challenge those, not because they agree with abortion or sames-sex marriage…

  8. I have yet to figure out how to say/pronounce GOProud.

    Also, “the government should stay in the government” makes no fucking sense

  9. Thank god I don’t have school tomorrow, I’m pretty sure I destroyed most of my brain cells watching that.

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