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Is it Okay To Write an Apology Letter To an Ex? 10 Queers Weigh In

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Oct 13, 2025
friendship

What’s a Normal Human Behavior That Gives You the Ick?

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya and the team

Jun 28, 2025
dating

12 Queers on Where We Fall on the Polyamory/Monogamy Scale

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya and the team

May 10, 2025
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I Think My Hot Girlfriend Is Gonna Leave Me For Someone Hotter

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Apr 12, 2024
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Help! I’ve Gotten ‘The Ick’ for My Girlfriend

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Apr 5, 2024

breakups

Is it Okay To Write an Apology Letter To an Ex? 10 Queers Weigh In

the team

Oct 13, 2025
friendship

What’s a Normal Human Behavior That Gives You the Ick?

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya and the team

Jun 28, 2025
dating

12 Queers on Where We Fall on the Polyamory/Monogamy Scale

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya and the team

May 10, 2025
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I Think My Hot Girlfriend Is Gonna Leave Me For Someone Hotter

the team

Apr 12, 2024
AF +

Help! I’ve Gotten ‘The Ick’ for My Girlfriend

the team

Apr 5, 2024

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two femmes, one who has lighter skin and one who has medium brown skin, both with long balck hair, are wearing comfortable but lacy lingerie and spooning in bed, smiling warmly and playfully.

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Into the A+ Advice Box #60: SEX

A+ Member sex questions — from spanking to long-term relationship sex — answered!

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May 20, 2022

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A+ Roundtable: Sex With an Ex

“I’m sure you’re shocked to hear that it did not work out well for me!”

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May 17, 2022

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Into the A+ Advice Box #59: You Love Her But There’s No Passion

What do you do with your facial hair, how do you make friends in your 30’s, where is your motivation these days, how do you cope with your wife breaking…

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May 6, 2022

Two mothers hold and laugh with their child. The mother on the left is Black and wearing a cap, glasses and black shirt with hair in long locs. The mother on the right is white with dyed strawberry hair. The child is a mixed-race toddler with curly dark brown hair.

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A+ Roundtable: Do We Have Kids? Do We Want to Have Kids?

“I don’t know, y’all, being a parent is so scary, and sweet and weird and hilarious and exhausting and ugly and lonely and suffocating and perfect.”

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May 5, 2022

In a collage against a pink background, left to right in the back row: Cheryl Dunye playing with her hat, Vanessa Friedman hugging friends, Audre Lorde in black and white, and Natalie Diaz smirking at the camera. Front row, left to right: Shelli Nicole as a little girl on picture day, Heather Hogan smiling in a tie, Malinda Lo looking directly into camera with an intense gaze, and Kayla Kumari taking a selfie with her phone. All of these photos are highlighted with background shadows in the color of the lesbian pride flag.

community

Lesbian Visibility Week 2022: Where We Look For Lesbianspiration

This for Lesbian Visibility Day, we are talking about the people we look to for LESBIANSPIRATION. Did you thank a lesbian for changing your life today?

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Apr 26, 2022

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A+ Roundtable: Our Worst Roommate Experiences

“The day I moved in she put one of those HRC equal sign stickers on the fridge lol. So performative!”

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Apr 25, 2022

A vintage black and white photo of a woman is set against a black background. The only visible color is red. She is wearing red lipstick and a red patterned dress. She has a black bar across her eyes and is holding a giant, half as big as her, vibrator.

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A+ Roundtable: Our Orgasm Thoughts

“Controversial and brave of me to say but I love orgasms lol.”

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Apr 18, 2022

In this stock photo, a Black woman looks over a bunch of one and five dollar bills that are half obscuring the lower half of her face. Text reads: Into the A+ Advice Box

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Into the A+ Advice Box #58: Money Problems

Dating with different incomes, saving to buy an apartment, being exhausted by constantly living under capitalism — and more!

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Apr 15, 2022

A field of neon "open" signs sits in a grid on a black background. Just one of them is replaced with a neon "closed" sign. The image is meant to evoke the sense of 'the world opening up' during the 'push to go back to normal' during the ongoing pandemic.

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A+ Roundtable: Dealing With the Push To ‘Go Back to Normal’

“I try to take my Covid guidelines from the immunocompromised people in my life — not the government.”

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Apr 11, 2022

Eight movies featured in this list: Turning Red, Brave, Tangled, Moana, Frozen, Mulan, The Incredibles, Dumbo

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Disney/Pixar Movies, Ranked by Mommy Issues

Who among us hasn’t been locked in a tower by our overbearing mothers (metaphorically)?

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Apr 9, 2022

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Into the A+ Advice Box #57: Can You Ask Someone Out While They’re Working?

Is it bad that your type is queer mascs / butches, are you burnt out, and how do you move on after your partner cheats on you with your best…

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Apr 4, 2022

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A+ Roundtable: The Keepsakes We Just Can’t Let Go Of

What keepsake do you hold onto that nobody else would understand?

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Mar 21, 2022