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Ultimate Lesbian Sex Survey

Sex + Relationships

13 Reasons Women In Lesbian Relationships Aren’t Having (More) Sex

“Lesbian bed death” does happen. But it doesn’t happen for the reasons you think it does, and it’s not necessarily the problem you think it is.

By Riese| March 28, 2016 | 74 Comments
Sex + Relationships

Is Period Sex The Ultimate Lesbian Sexual Indicator?

People who want to have period sex have more and varied sex more often and report higher sexual satisfaction than anyone else, a survey finds.

By Carolyn Yates| February 8, 2016 | 40 Comments
Sex + Relationships

Lesbian Sex: Your 15 Favorite Ways To Have It

How do lesbians have sex? Well, we have an actual answer for you: here are the 15 sex acts we consider a regular part of our sex lives.

By Riese| August 25, 2015 | 54 Comments
Sex + Relationships

You Need Help: Is She “The One”?

HOW WILL YOU EVER KNOW?

By Carolyn Yates| August 24, 2015 | 33 Comments
Sex + Relationships

87% Of Queer Women Are Into Porn or Erotica, But Not All Of It Is Lesbionic

Our latest round of results from the 2015 Ultimate Lesbian Sex Survey is all about the porn, erotica and smut you consume and how often you consume it — and why so many queer women watch straight or gay male porn instead of girl-on-girl.

By Riese| June 18, 2015 | 32 Comments
Sex + Relationships

Here’s The Salacious Sex Statistics On Queer Women In Non-monogamous vs. Monogamous Relationships

Everything you ever wanted to know about the sex lives of the monogamous, non-monogamous, and those preferring various sub-styles of relationship. SO MANY THINGS. IT’S ALL HERE.

By Riese| June 9, 2015 | 11 Comments
Sex + Relationships

When Did You Do It For The First Time and How Many People Have You Done It With, Huh?

Oh you know, just the answers to everybody’s favorite two questions ever.

By Riese| May 19, 2015 | 47 Comments
Sex + Relationships

Women’s Best Bet For A Synced-Up Sex Schedule Is Lesbianism

A new survey finds that men and women like having sex at totally different times of day — how do their numbers compare to ours about when queer women like having sex?

By Riese| May 12, 2015 | 12 Comments
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Why You Should Care About Lesbian Safer Sex (And What To Do About It)

If sexual health isn’t relevant to your interests yet, it should be.

By Christy Duan| May 5, 2015 | 75 Comments
Sex + Relationships

The 100 Most Ambitious Places You’ve Had Sex

“Lost in the Dole pineapple maze in Hawaii.” “On my back in a Corolla on a bridge in a Little Bo Peep costume.” “The aardvark exhibit at the zoo.”

By Riese| April 30, 2015 | 68 Comments
Sex + Relationships

Lesbian Sex Gets Women Off At Astronomical Rates, Our Sex Survey Shows

High femmes, women over 35 and people in relationships orgasm a whole lot during sex and other interesting things we learned about how you get off.

By Riese| April 29, 2015 | 46 Comments
Fashion/Style Sex + Relationships

Here Are Your Very Queer Underwear-Wearing Habits

The Ultimate Lesbian Sex Survey knows what you’ve got on underneath those jeans, and how that relates to your gender identity and presentation.

By Riese| April 24, 2015 | 55 Comments
Sex + Relationships

41 Feelings You Had About Scissoring

How many of you scissor on the regular? And how many of you remain convinced that scissoring isn’t real? Here’s what our Ultimate Lesbian Sex Survey revealed about everybody’s favorite sex-related topic.

By Riese| April 19, 2015 | 79 Comments
Sex + Relationships

50 Fascinating Things You Really Wanted Us To Know About How You Have Sex

“I say a lot of things about myself during sex that I would not say about myself at any other time, primarily phrases like “I’m your bitch.”

By Riese| April 14, 2015 | 249 Comments
Sex + Relationships

Queer Women Masturbate More Than Straight Women, Our Sex Survey Says

On the masturbation practices of the 8,566 humans who took our Ultimate Lesbian Sex Survey — how they do it, for how long, how often, and “how much more than everybody else.”

By Riese| April 13, 2015 | 53 Comments
Sex + Relationships

The 100 Gayest Places You’ve Had Sex

” The back of a Jeep next to a beaver pond. That’s right. Beaver. Pond. A pond with an entire family of beavers in it.”

By Riese| April 8, 2015 | 106 Comments
Sex + Relationships

How Often Do Queer Women Have Sex?

We’ve got all the numbers on how often you have sex from our Ultimate Lesbian Sex Survey — and some of them might surprise you!

By Riese| March 30, 2015 | 41 Comments
Sex + Relationships

26 Bits Of Solid Sex Advice You Gave Us On Autostraddle’s Lesbosexy Sex Survey

20. WASH YOUR HANDS IF YOU ATE BUFFALO WINGS BEFORE GETTING LAID, OMG.

By Carolyn Yates| February 24, 2015 | 55 Comments
Sex + Relationships

Announcing The Ultimate Lesbian Sex Survey (For Women Who Sleep With Women)

TELL US EVERYTHING ABOUT YOUR SEX LIFE.

By Carolyn Yates| January 11, 2015
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